Often I get asked how did I get from hating my body, my life, attempting of suicide, almost two decades of bulimia (eating disorder), toxic relationships and mental and physical abuse into owning 6 figure online coaching biz, having an amazing team, working with my soulmate clients and marrying the man of my dream in two months?
I wish there would be a simple answer that I could point you to so you too can create a life that feels abundant and fulfilling to you on the inside. And even though there is no magical wand I could use to wave and make your life right for you, what I can do is to share things that helped me on my journey.
Here we go:
Healing my inner childWhen we disconnect from our inner child that all it wanted was to be loved, heard, and seen, we recreate all these needs in our adulthood.What that means is that the hurt we were feeling when growing up (whether there is a big trauma, or your parents were just too busy to tackle you at night) those hurts are known for you and will keep appearing throughout your life. You will create those same feelings in your work, relationships, your health, your finances. Until you slow down enough to ask yourself:What is that I really needed to hear and feel when I was growing up?Allow the answers to come slowly to you, whether it is the same day or when you are not expecting it at all.Give yourself what you have needed when growing up. The love, the attention, the listening ear, the safety.Only when we reconnect with our inner child can we rise above and start attracting new things and people who are more aligned with who we are becoming vs who we used to be.
Forgiving myself and othersSo often we are holding on to past hurts and blaming others for who we are and where we are.Yet, when we are bitter towards others we are only poisoning ourselves with this bitterness. I have created a Forgiveness Framework that I teach my 1:1 clients and on my in-person events (if you want it email me at
[email protected])I allowed myself to forgive myself for how I treated myself and others in the past.I allowed others to be my teachers vs my abusers.I allowed myself to create space through compassion vs judgment.Who do you get to let go and forgive?
Became unapologetically MEGetting clear on who I am and what I stand for changed everything in my life! Knowing what are my core values and learning how to embody them was the foundation on how I was able to let go of what didn’t align anymore with who I am and who I am becoming. That clarity gave me confidence, that confidence gave me courage, and with courage my love, we are unstoppable.When was the last time you checked on your core values and if you are still living them?
Released my scarcity mindsetScarcity mindset isn’t only about money, even though it was a big part of my journey. Scarcity creeps in as not enough. I don’t have enough time, I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough knowledge, I don’t have enough experience, let’s sum it up - I am not enough.That was one of the biggest blocks for me. Believing I am not enough, that I am not worthy and lovable.Until you realize that you can’t be outsourcing your worthiness and happiness you won’t be happy.How can you start celebrating abundance in your life? What feels good and expansive? What feels right at this moment? What is working?I created daily rituals for myself in the morning to feel abundant with time, I created weekly dates with money to heal my relationship with money, and these steps helped me to believe I can do and have my desires.
Let go of my need to do it aloneRaise your hand if you ever thought to yourself - I can do this better than anyone else, I don’t want to bother anyone, I don’t want to ask for help so people don’t think I am weak, silly, or stupid.I am personally raising both of my hands love.Been the older sibling put me in the position that I will take care of everything, I will be here to help, serve, and not allow others to see me struggl