Reflecting on a former unhealthy and toxic relationship, today I talk about why we stay in these dynamics. Having been on the outside looking in, and then being a part of one has given me more insight, understanding and compassion for those in it. If you are being harmed, please seek help and ensure your safety first. This episode reflects my experience and something I’ve discussed with others who have been in similar dynamics - by no means is it a substitute for a professional opinion. I am sure this is a sensitive topic for many, and I hope that through this episode, there can be more conversations, support, and a willingness to heal our wounds that we often carry forward into our relationships with others.

What I discuss:

2:52 Familiarity with childhood wounds

6:40 Addiction to the hot/cold dynamic

8:20 Anxious/avoidant attachment styles 

10:58 Looking at potential rather than accepting reality 

14:43 Allowing people to cross our boundaries 

16:27 Two journal entries, 13 months apart 

20:08 Having awareness but not taking action 

21:55 How to navigate a toxic relationship

24:00 Reach out for support

25:37 Zero contact

26:40 Take time to heal 

28:34 Questions to reflect on

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