One + One = One or Two?   Inherent in our relationships is that the participants have a set of assumptions and expectations for themselves as well as for the other person.  Whether in marriage or friendship we rely on these assumptions and expectations to healthfully maximize the connection we have with each other.    We have choices in our degree of connection such as whether our relationship emphasizes remaining two separate entities or whether we prefer the tighter connection of blending into one entity such as some marriages, families and friendships strive to do.   Our challenge can be to the degree that both of the individuals see this type of assumption and expectation as being compatible for daily living.