As the kids get older I find myself watching moms with babies and toddlers and remember what a hot mess it felt like.

I can look back on those early years with all of their demands on my time, my body, my energy and notice how I really fought it and how I probably made it harder than it needed to be. 

Hindsight is easier from the plateau than it is in the thick of the valley. 

I can see a lot of mindset shifts that would have helped me to show up better. 

I want to share them with you if you are a mama with small ones around and feel like you need a refresher for your heart and soul. 

 

Because our mindsets matter. The story we tell ourselves about our life, about motherhood, about our kids, that all matters.

It matters because we SHOW UP from this story. 

If this story makes us feel helpless, that is how we show up. If this story makes us feel frustrated, that is how we show up. 

I want to help you become aware of the stories you might be telling yourself here and offer you some new ways to look at things.

THIS IS PART ONE OF TWO

Emotional struggles and mindset shifts that we talk about in this episode:

It's ok to feel my tough feelings

It's ok to mourn my old life

Motherhood is hard, but I don't have to make it harder

 I can trust myself in motherhood (and move away from rules and perfectionism)

I am the mom meant for my kids

Have a plan and plan to change 

THE FULL TRANSCRIPTION IS AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE 

Get the printable PDF that goes with this episode and the following episode. 

 

 

FUN LINKS FOR MAMAS:

Faith and fertility

My thyroid, my frenemy (grave's disease)

My c-section and the feelings I was ashamed to admit

My VBAC Story

The baby who always cried

God's grace through difficult parenting

Settling, in motherhood

What moms of toddlers need to hear

Be the mom you are

How to be intentional with your family culture

Set your own family rhythms

The Life on Purpose Academy (group life coaching for moms, monthly topics and weekly calls)

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FULL TRANSCRIPT OF THIS EPISODE

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Hey friends. I'm Shawna Your Nerdy Girlfriend and life coach from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to Simple on Purpose.

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I am here to remind you that it is okay to simplify it is okay to have a simple life. It is okay to have a simple home because when you simplify, when you remove the distractions, you get to show up for what really matters to you. And it doesn't look like anyone else. That's the best part.

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And I aim to keep things simple here on what I bring to you. So I aim to keep these episodes less than 20 minutes, so you can listen to them very easily. And my simple Saturday's email that comes out twice a month. I know it's natural for people to be sending out emails weekly, but Hey, when I have less on my plate, I can do more better. If that makes sense, the less you have to think about the more you can just zone in, right where you are.

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So guys, September, we're coming to a close, how has it been going for you? You might have kids in school. You might be doing distance learning or homeschooling, maybe a combination and wherever you are at. I want you to know that you're doing a good job. You have been making decisions that you feel are best for your family. You've been paying attention to what your kids need, trying to make adaptations to that. And one of the coolest things I've been seeing happening is people are realizing they're allowed to change their minds. There's people who are deciding to actually send their kids to school or take their kids out of school or switch curriculums or switch homeschooling to distance learning and vice versa. Wherever you are at. You're always allowed to change your mind because that is still a form of doing what is best for your family.

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