Well, here we go again…. Ready or not, it’s holiday season once more.

The words Thanksgiving… Christmas…. Holidays… all conjure up many different images and feelings for each of us. For some of us, the holidays are a time of celebration and friends and family and fun. There is joy and laughter and memory making. And even if this is true for most of us, most of the time, when you’re facing a divorce, new parenting arrangements, perhaps loss of extended family and other grievances as part of a major life transition, having hope and joy and making merry during the holidays is hard.

Today, I want to share a little bit of my holiday divorce story and some encouragement for you to get through this season well.

Remember that the pain you are feeling right now is temporary. I do not want to minimize what you feel or be insensitive because I know this pain is real!  I was experiencing (and frankly still do sometimes still feel) extreme physical and emotional pain from the fallout of my divorce, but what I know now that I don’t think I grasped then, that I want you to grasp now, is that this came to pass not to stay. Pain has a purpose. You may feel like you are under attack, like you are a victim, and like nothing will ever be okay, but I am here to make you a PROMISE. It will be. 

If you find yourself in this place now, during the holiday season, facing solitude you thought you wanted but now wonder how you will survive, tune in now for some tips to find your holiday hope.

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