People pleasing -you can use that same muscle to delight YOU. It’s that part of you that KNOWs how to delight others. But that part was never meant to only be turned outward. If it’s been a long time since you let it look inward, you might have a hard time at first understanding what you want. But all of that information is there, you just need to give the pleasing part permission to turn its gaze inside. Saying yes when you want to say no is a habit like any other. Start practicing saying yes to yourself - you are the gatekeeper of your experience and energy, no one else is.