The way we give advice matters. People don’t like for other people to tell them what to do. Kids also do not like for their parents to tell them what to do. When parents give advice, kids often think, “They just don’t understand my situation.” And then they don’t follow that advice. One of the best ways to get around this problem with your kid, and to give advice without it feeling like advice, is to tell the other person about a shared experience you had and talk about how it worked out for you.