'How are things going?' 'Oh, they are busy'. How often are you talking about how BUSY you are?  How often do you find yourself thinking you wish you had more time for other things. How often do you end your day feeling drained and worn and maybe resentful. 

Busyness might be a cycle you are spinning in. And it is a common cycle for moms to be on - because we have a culture that tells how busy is a badge of honour while simultaneously throwing memes of frazzled moms in our face. 

In this episode we unpack BEING TOO BUSY, all of this is a primer to the next episode on being more present. 

Main points on why you are too busy

Our culture glorifies busy, and there are some signs that we have bought into it. One of them being that feel like we never have enough time

Busy is that feeling when we get when we feel our life demands are more than the energy we have

Being busy isn't so much a problem with how we manage our time, but also a problem with how we manage what is purposeful. We aren't using our time and energy purposefully

Yet we are still busy because somehow, it serves us. Being busy allows us to chase a feeling or avoid a feeling

Each enneagram type can be busy for different reasons. 

We respond to 'busy' with 'productivity' but we are often missing the 'purpose' 

Simple solutions for moms to manage the busy feeling

braindump, prioritize,  make time for what matters

Long term management of busy means knowing who you are and what you want in life, and setting your time and energy in line with that. 

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Full episode transcript 

Hey, friends,

 This is the simple on purpose podcast. And if you're new here, welcome. This is a podcast, I aim to keep short to the point and full of motivation and ideas on new ways to approach your everyday life. So that you can show up for your whole life without overhauling IT shop for your whole life where it is right now, and feel like you're showing up on purpose.

Today, I want to talk about busy and I was about to record an episode on being present. And I just had so much to say on the opposite of present, which is busyness that I thought it deserved an intro of its own. Why are we so busy? 

There is such thing as the glorification of busy, where we have a culture around us that glorifies busy.

Some things to look out for yourself, if you are buying into the glorification of busy are:

you talk about how busy you are,

you feel like you do a lot, but you don't get a lot done

after an active day you feel drained, maybe even resentful, instead of invigorated and purposeful.

you feel like you never have enough time.

And that's the thing is busy is something that we feel we feel busy when our life demands more than the energy we have.

So the problem is more how we manage our energy, and how we manage our life demands.

But we don't really get to that place where we're questioning, oh, how am I managing my life and my energy we don't, we're just busy. This culture of busy this badge of honor, and even busy in our leisure time where we spend it on our phone instagramming texting emails.

If you feel like you are too busy, the first thing I want to encourage you to do is stop saying you're busy. It really makes you the victim, it perpetuates the helpless feeling of it. And if anything, that's a great reason to stop saying because it makes you feel helpless when you talk about how busy you are.

Because being busy. what's underneath that is that we haven't been very mindful about what we choose to do we do more and more. And often, they're not the things that we truly crave that that are leading us to the life that feels freeing and full. We haven't been mindful about what's important to say yes to and what we shouldn't say no to,