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89 | You Can't Outwork Your Way Into Safety
⚡️Click Here To Text Monique!
This week, Monique shares one of her most personal episodes yet, offering an honest look at a season marked by anxiety, overwhelm, and the constant pressure to protect the people she loves. As worries about emergencies, business growth, social media, and motherhood began pulling her in every direction, she realized she had been sacrificing her own peace in an attempt to control the uncontrollable.
Through deeply personal stories, Monique reflects on the hidden cost of living in a constant state of future-focused worry and the breakthrough conversations that helped her recognize the difference between productive preparation and anxiety-driven control. She shares how chasing safety was actually pulling her further away from the presence, connection, and peace she was longing for.
If you've ever felt emotionally stretched too thin or found yourself carrying the weight of every possible "what if," this episode offers an honest reminder that peace isn't found by controlling more. It's cultivated by coming back to the present.
GEMS DROPPED
“I have been desperately seeking control and it has been under the delusion that the more we do, the harder we push, if we can break off more pieces of ourself to tackle more fires and to run faster, that this will increase our control. And the thing that I was seeking was safety. And felt like the more I do these things, eventually I'll feel more safe.. And it couldn't be further from the truth.”
“What I was losing in this constant pursuit of trying to control things and seeking safety was my peace and connection. You can't be present if you're always running out into the future.”
“You are not alone, you are not broken,, you are not the only one. Because I know that's the thing that I can feel like, really lost and sometimes I'm like, it seems like everybody else is coping so well. Girl, everybody else is not coping so well. People who are interested in dysfunction, who have been operating out of dysfunction, they're going to be operating fine. But if that is not who you are at your core, you are not someone who seeks dysfunction, who is interested in chaos, then you don't have to be fine. And you are definitely not alone. You are definitely not alone.”
“So my work right now is opening up more capacity to stay present to my process, to be in the process of things and to invite in more help.”
“There's no arrival point for anything in life, including safety. You never get to a point where you're like, I am safe. Not permanently. That is an active process of cultivating safety and seeking out things that are healthy and nourishing such as relationships, spaces, work, communities.”
STAY IN TOUCH
Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to [email protected].
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By Monique R. Shields⚡️Click Here To Text Monique!
This week, Monique shares one of her most personal episodes yet, offering an honest look at a season marked by anxiety, overwhelm, and the constant pressure to protect the people she loves. As worries about emergencies, business growth, social media, and motherhood began pulling her in every direction, she realized she had been sacrificing her own peace in an attempt to control the uncontrollable.
Through deeply personal stories, Monique reflects on the hidden cost of living in a constant state of future-focused worry and the breakthrough conversations that helped her recognize the difference between productive preparation and anxiety-driven control. She shares how chasing safety was actually pulling her further away from the presence, connection, and peace she was longing for.
If you've ever felt emotionally stretched too thin or found yourself carrying the weight of every possible "what if," this episode offers an honest reminder that peace isn't found by controlling more. It's cultivated by coming back to the present.
GEMS DROPPED
“I have been desperately seeking control and it has been under the delusion that the more we do, the harder we push, if we can break off more pieces of ourself to tackle more fires and to run faster, that this will increase our control. And the thing that I was seeking was safety. And felt like the more I do these things, eventually I'll feel more safe.. And it couldn't be further from the truth.”
“What I was losing in this constant pursuit of trying to control things and seeking safety was my peace and connection. You can't be present if you're always running out into the future.”
“You are not alone, you are not broken,, you are not the only one. Because I know that's the thing that I can feel like, really lost and sometimes I'm like, it seems like everybody else is coping so well. Girl, everybody else is not coping so well. People who are interested in dysfunction, who have been operating out of dysfunction, they're going to be operating fine. But if that is not who you are at your core, you are not someone who seeks dysfunction, who is interested in chaos, then you don't have to be fine. And you are definitely not alone. You are definitely not alone.”
“So my work right now is opening up more capacity to stay present to my process, to be in the process of things and to invite in more help.”
“There's no arrival point for anything in life, including safety. You never get to a point where you're like, I am safe. Not permanently. That is an active process of cultivating safety and seeking out things that are healthy and nourishing such as relationships, spaces, work, communities.”
STAY IN TOUCH
Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to [email protected].