Episode Summary:

Welcome to Healing Starts With the Heart, where grief gets real and healing gets honest.

In this episode, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker pulls back the curtain on the 9 biggest lies we’ve been told about grief—and how they’ve shaped generations of silent suffering. From pretending you're okay to being told “just stay busy,” this episode is a deep and raw dive into the ways our society teaches us to perform instead of process our pain.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re grieving “wrong,” this is your invitation to unlearn the myths and finally make space for the truth: you are not broken—just unheard.

🧠 Key Points Discussed:

• Why most of us were never taught to grieve—and inherited myths from people who were also grieving

• The 9 biggest lies we’ve been told about grief, including:

  1. If it’s not death or divorce, it’s not grief

  2. Stay busy and it will help

  3. Don’t feel bad

  4. Grieve alone

  5. If you’re not crying, it’s not grief

  6. Just replace the loss

  7. Be strong for others

  8. Time will heal

  9. Moving forward means forgetting

• How these lies lead to emotional isolation, pretending, resentment, and long-term unresolved grief

• Why crying isn’t weakness—and “being strong” often just means shutting down

• What it means to truly acknowledge grief, and how that creates space for healing

📓 Journal Questions for Reflection:

• Which of these grief lies have I believed or been told?

• Where in my life am I pretending to be “okay”?

• What emotions have I been taught to suppress in grief?

• What version of myself have I lost that I haven’t grieved?

• How has staying busy or being strong delayed my healing?

🩶 Conclusion:

You weren’t given the tools to grieve—because no one ever gave them to the people who raised you either. You were handed myths instead of truth, silence instead of support. But it’s not too late to start over. It’s not too late to unlearn.

Grief isn’t a mindset problem. It’s not something you fix with strength or smiles. Grief is a wound that deserves your attention, your honesty, and your community.

So if you’re tired of pretending, if the lies about how to grieve are weighing you down—this episode is your permission slip to finally grieve out loud.

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