Who gets to decide who you are? 

The natural answer might be, “Me, of course!”. But in reality, we often let others decide and define who we are. Our family members, spouses, teachers, friends, coworkers, employers, and especially…the abusive and narcissistic people in our lives. 

Sometimes we get in the habit of trusting others’ definitions of our identities more than our own. And sometimes this happens automatically because we don’t really know who we are…or at least we think we don’t.