Midlife AF Podcast

#95 Just AF

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This week we are exploring the concept of the "just world theory" and how it relates to our tendency to blame victims, especially when it comes to issues around alcohol and adversity. I share personal experiences of being bullied and isolated, and how that impacted my sense of self and emotional processing.

I also chat about the importance of validating our feelings, even the difficult ones, and how practices like Somatic Experiencing, breathwork, and internal family systems work have helped me learn to sit with and process my emotions.

Key Takeaways: 

  • The "just world theory" suggests that bad things don't happen to good people, leading to victim-blaming and isolation for those experiencing hardship.
  • Childhood experiences of not being allowed to feel our emotions can lead to a lifelong struggle with numbness, disconnection, and control anxiety.
  • Validating our own experiences and feelings, rather than dismissing them, is crucial for mental wellness and self-care.
  • Reaching out to support friends and loved ones who are hurting, even if they don't immediately respond, can make a significant difference.
  • Continuing to explore practices like internal family systems, parts work, and improving interoceptive awareness can help us better process our experiences and emotions.

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