Dear God, Unscripted

96. Brother To Brother (Part 2): What We Were Taught About Being Men


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In Part 2 of this deeply personal conversation, Jordan and his cousin-brother Ashyrii continue to peel back the layers of Black male identity, emotional expression, and the lifelong work of healing. From childhood conditioning to adult relationships, fatherhood, and the journey to mental wellness, this episode is a vulnerable look at what happens when men confront their pain and begin to rewire what manhood looks like.The two explore the long-term impact of emotionally unavailable upbringings, the weight of unspoken family trauma, and the challenge of showing up emotionally in marriage and friendship. They share how therapy, faith, and loss—especially the death of their grandfather—transformed their perspectives and reconnected them after a season of distance. Through it all, they emphasize the power of showing up, having a plan, and giving the next generation something better.Whether you’re a man learning to speak your heart, a partner trying to understand, or a parent hoping to raise emotionally whole children—this episode is for you.🔥 Key Topics:

  • Breaking the silence: why emotional expression was taboo growing up
  • The myth of the stoic man and how it sabotages relationships
  • Learning to name and communicate needs in marriage
  • Hitting rock bottom—and finding your way out
  • The death of a grandfather and the grief that reshaped everything
  • Reconciling after a season of distance between brothers
  • Therapy, tools, and telling the truth
  • Redefining strength for the next generation of Black boys
  • What healthy masculinity, leadership, and legacy look like
  • “Don’t you know how bad I want this?” — the emotional shortcut many men take
  • Therapy as a mirror: working through blind spots and limiting beliefs
  • The 6 Ps: “Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance”
  • How low mental health distorts self-worth and decision-making
  • Posture, breathwork, and movement as powerful mental resets (shoutout to UPW + Tony Robbins)
  • Setting emotional boundaries with love and clarity
  • Modeling emotional intelligence for our sons and future generations

00:00 | Growing Up Without Safe Spaces to Feel05:57 | Choices, Consequences, and the Journey to Growth07:26 | Defining Success After You’ve Hit Rock Bottom12:16 | Grieving Together: What Loss Taught Us19:46 | When Faith Meets Mental Health29:54 | How Mental Health Shows Up in Marriage and Friendship34:54 | Teaching Our Sons a New Way to Be MenThanks for watching! 🙏🏽🎵 Vibes (Intro/Outro/Transition Music): Laidback Lo Fi Hip Hop (License Code: ASLC-3D727B89-82AD9A1065)#DearGodUnscripted #ChristianPodcasts #MensMentalHealth

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