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In this episode, Ana shares her journey from overgiving and self-sacrifice to reclaiming her own needs and boundaries. Growing up watching her mother put herself last, Ana learned that being a “good woman” meant taking care of everyone else first. For years, she poured her energy into others—friends, partners, colleagues—believing it was love. But beneath it was exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection from herself.

Through therapy, breathwork, and nervous system healing, Ana began unlearning the belief that love is earned through self-sacrifice. She reflects on the difficult choices she made to end one-sided relationships, and how creating space for mutual, nourishing connections transformed her life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How childhood examples shape our beliefs about love, rest, and caretaking

• Why chronic overgiving often stems from fear and learned survival patterns

• The signs a relationship may be rooted in one-sided giving

• How to set boundaries without guilt or over-explaining

• Why true service comes from self-connection, not depletion

Ana also invites you to reflect on your own patterns: Did you grow up believing love had to be earned? Are you ready to start putting your own needs on the table?

If you’re craving support in reconnecting with yourself, Ana shares how The Summer Reset can help—three private sessions in a steady, nurturing container to help you feel grounded, cared for, and deeply connected to yourself again.

Learn more about The Summer Reset here: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ 

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