We are constantly facing change in our lives while attempting to make positive and healthy decisions.  You and I tend to rely on life experiences in this process with habituation being chosen for managing most of our repetitive decisions. 

 Reaching various life path junctions we may need to evaluate and decide on a new direction or re-decide to continue along the same path that has worked to some degree for us so far. 

 These junctions can occur when we realize that our current thoughts, feelings and behaviors are not providing satisfactory outcomes for living life.

Hopefully, we can avoid using mind games like "If only" or "What if" to paralyze us from evaluating and making healthy positive life choices that require some degree of change.