In this episode, Barbara Want shares how the death of her husband, BBC Radio 4 presenter Nick Clarke, reshaped her understanding of grief — and why she believes loss never diminishes, only the life around it grows larger.She reflects on 20 years of carrying that grief forward, what the world gets wrong about bereavement, and how to support both adults and children through one of life's most isolating experiences.Mentioned in the Episode📖 Why Not Me?: A Story of Love and Loss by Barbara Want — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003FXCSAY🎙️ Fighting to Be Normal — Nick Clarke's BBC Radio 4 audio diary (2006): https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b00799pn (flag for verification — see Phase 3)🌐 Winston's Wish (childhood bereavement charity) — https://winstonswish.org🌐 Cruse Bereavement Care / Cruse Bereavement Support — https://www.cruse.org.ukTIMESTAMPS00:00 👋 Meet Barbara Want — BBC Producer, Journalist & Widow01:00 🎓 Growing Up in Pinner & Getting into Cambridge02:17 📺 Buying a TV Just to Ace Her BBC Interview06:32 🎬 The Reality of Life as a BBC Producer09:35 💑 Meeting Nick Clarke 11:00 🎉 A Party, a Published Book, and Days Left of Joy11:52 💔 The Diagnosis That Changed Everything13:00 🏥 The Amputation & the Moment She Collapsed14:21 🎙️ Recording "Fighting to Be Normal" While Living It16:44 📞 Re-Diagnosed18:50 🤝 "You Are the Best Friend I've Ever Had"19:00 ✨ Why Nick's Death Was, in Its Own Way, Beautiful20:05 📖 The Brutal Truth About Grief22:09 🪨 "Grief Never Ends"25:43 🚪 Winston's Wish & Why Bereaved Children Are Invisible27:44 🏫 What Schools Get Right (and Wrong) About Children's Grief30:00 📅 20 Years On — Does It Still Feel Like Yesterday?31:58 🫂 Friendships Lost in the Wreckage34:33 💪 How Her Relationship with Grief Has Changed35:50 📣 Real Advice for the Bereaved (No Instagram Memes)37:48 🌟 What Gives Her Joy Now38:15 ⚡ Quick-Fire Round:#atworkwith #grief #bbc #journalist