a curious mind podcast

In today’s episode I speak about a creative block I have been experiencing recently. It is part of life and so I felt like sharing what happens for me and what I have observed helps me get back into expressing myself and my creativity :)

A raw and honest episode on my experience with people pleasing. ♡ 

In todays episode I focus on the idea that: there is an infinite amount of love in the world. 

I think it’s important we are reminded every now and then that there’s no limit to how much love we can give. And if you give love with no expectations on getting it back, you find love in things you never would have expected to find it. Enjoy ♡ 

In the episode, I reference:

• Brent Brown - ‘Common enemy intimacy’ - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yeXmYvBI0Co (from 50:56 - 52:50 mins) 

Ahhhhhhh, being chosen. I would say the feeling of being chosen is incredibly comforting. Remember at school when they would pick sports teams? How badly you wanted to be chosen as soon as possible? Or when you’re applying for a job amongst several other people and you’re the one that’s picked for it!!? Or when someone comes up to you in a bar and takes interest in you? 

It’s a great feeling. I am not going to pretend like it isn’t. 

HOWEVER, It’s also just as (or more) important to also practice your right TO CHOOSE. You can choose to say no to being chosen for one sports team because you wanted to go to the other one. Or say no to the person that approaches you at the bar because they are demonstrating behaviours that don’t sit right with you… I feel like in my experience, that side of interactions have not been as apparent to me until recently. 

It’s so important to know you have a part in these interactions. Your feelings matter. You are important and you can choose just as much as the next person. 

This is what todays episode is about :) 

So in today’s episode, I speak about my experience doing the PQ course. 

The PQ course is a course developed by a very intelligent man called Shirzad Chamine, and it’s main goal is to strengthen the right side of your brain that is less reactive, more felt and is where your problem solving takes place. 

This course has genuinely transformed the way I think. I notice that I have much more awareness and control over my mind and therefore am not as much of a victim to my thoughts! It is truly a wonderful course, and if you have the means to, and are interested in it, please go for it. You will absolutely get something from it. 

I hope you enjoy!

Information about PQ can be found here:

Website - https://positiveintelligence.com/program/

Ted Talk by Shirzad Chamine - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zdJ1ubvoXs

PQ book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Positive-Intelligence-Individuals-Achieve-Potential/dp/1608322785/ref=asc_df_1608322785?mcid=c3fe2fb6cb733d6d9f5d382436c182fc&th=1&psc=1&tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=696450770375&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=7313701407726673699&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006518&hvtargid=pla-434856293215&psc=1&hvocijid=7313701407726673699-1608322785-&hvexpln=0&gad_source=1

I also mention the book ‘The body keeps the score’ which is written by the brilliant Bessel van der Kolk. 

Lastly, I forgot the 5 ’sage powers’ whilst filming the episode, those are:

1. Empathise
2. Explore
3. Innovate
4. Navigate
5. Activate

Florence Given shared recently on her podcast that… The Universe will keep sending you things that you keep accepting. She then went on to say that this means that if you keep accepting sub-optimal behaviour from people around you/even from yourself, you will keep being sent those things, even though they’re not what you deserve! 

You deserve to be treated with respect, you deserve to be considered, you deserve to feel valued and cared for, but if you keep accepting people in your life that don’t treat you this way, you will keep getting treated that way! 

It’s important to realise it is in your hands to change this. That you can say no to these kinds of relationships and place importance on your needs, your wants and what you DESERVE. 

Even if you are kind, respectful and considerate of others and objectively do not deserve to be mistreated, if you ALLOW people to treat you that way, you will continue to be treated that way. But you can change this! You can start saying no and begin walking away from situations that do not honour you.

That’s what this episode is about today :) 

Courage is = Feeling the fear, and doing it anyway. 

This is a quote I stumbled upon a few years ago, I sadly can’t remember who from (It may be Brent Brown actually) and it really stuck with me. 

I believe that courage takes many forms and we are all courageous beings. Things that may seem courageous on the outside, may not invoke the same amount of fear that something relatively ‘benign’ may, and that’s the beauty of being a human. Not one thing impacts everyone the same way! 

I love this way of measuring courage, because it gives me the chance to appreciate my courageous side. 

Please remember that even if you’re not a superhero, saving the world from a big bad villain, you still are an extremely courageous being. Getting through life takes courage ♡  

Ahh. This episode is a really wholesome one. It’s my own reflection on how I have viewed friendships throughout my teens and early twenties. 

It’s nice because it has a happy ending. I have had my fair share of toxic and complicated friendships in my past that have left lasting marks on me. But, those experiences have lead me to where I am now… Which is a really good place. :)

I hope you enjoy this episode very much. 

This quote, has hugely hugely changed my outlook on life. 

I have been known to want to move away from my home country, start a new life, go on new adventures and meet new people. I have a yearning to LEAVE to RUN AWAY to EXPLORE that is still very strong within me. I really do feel like a child to the world in a lot of ways. However, I also have learned that if I am looking for an answer or new beginning in different geographical locations… once the nuance of the experiences die out, I am still left with me. I can be in the most beautiful, paradisiacal places in this world, and still be extremely unhappy, because if I am unhappy with myself, I am unhappy ANYWHERE. 

That’s what this episode is all about. I hope you enjoy :) 

In this episode, I speak about ‘the unknown’. 

I grew up in a culture that is quite uncomfortable with ‘the unknown’. We are constantly planning for the future, always looking ahead and naturally struggle to be present and in the moment. I find comfort in control and in planning but it also gives me a lot of anxiety because I know that I cannot actually plan out how my life will look.

Over the last year, me and ‘the unknown’ have become friends. I have realised that all I really have control over is this present moment. So I show up for myself time and time again and let life decide the rest. It’s helped me stay more present and actually enjoy the surprises that have shown up for me!

I hope you enjoy this episode ♡