A Decade Never to be Forgotten

Summary

Jake Harmer returns for his second annual check-in on A Decade Never to Be Forgotten. He reflects on welcoming a fourth child, growing Family History StoryBooks to 120 titles and more than 8,000 printed books, and asking what experiences he wants his own storybook to preserve. Jake and Jethro discuss using AI to research, write, and illustrate family-history books; discerning truth in an age of synthetic video; serving in a bishopric and helping young men pursue longer-term goals; using AI to complete plumbing and electrical work in a home addition; fatherhood; and what the next year may bring.

Chapters

• 0:00 — Welcome & a Year of Reflection
• 1:30 — A New Baby and Family History StoryBooks
• 3:48 — What Belongs in a Life Story?
• 9:17 — Research, Writers, and AI-Assisted Books
• 12:26 — AI Image Generation and Consistent Characters
• 19:57 — Synthetic Media and Spiritual Discernment
• 22:20 — Making the Storybook Business Work
• 24:20 — Serving in the Bishopric and Learning Through Trials
• 34:03 — Sharing Faith Online
• 39:08 — Helping Young Men Pursue Long-Term Goals
• 45:37 — Using AI for a Home Addition
• 47:40 — Baptism and Spiritual Moments
• 49:35 — Being Present With Family
• 54:00 — What the Next Year May Bring
• 56:10 — AI as a Tool for Creativity

Show Notes

• Journal your own decade at adecadenevertobeforgotten.com or adntbf.com
• Jake's Family History StoryBooks work turns family research into illustrated books for descendants.
• Topics include AI-assisted research and illustration, spiritual discernment, church service, long-term goals for youth, home improvement, and being present with family.
• Referenced in this episode: President Russell M. Nelson's teaching about the Holy Ghost, Job, Ether and the brother of Jared, the Stripling Warriors, and recent AI filmmaking.

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Summary

Becky Sampson returns for her second annual check-in on A Decade Never to Be Forgotten. On her 53rd birthday, Becky and host Jethro explore how she's grown closer to the Savior through personal trials, the power of choosing love in the midst of a difficult custody situation and blended family dynamics, using AI alongside the Spirit, recognizing "God drops" in everyday life, navigating the last days with faith and grounding practices, finding joy through surrender and acceptance, the painful yet refining journey of not having biological children, stepping into authenticity in her third marriage and business ventures, and the ripple effect of coaching others to reach their potential.

Chapters

• 0:00 — Welcome & Introduction
• 0:53 — Growing Closer to the Savior
• 3:22 — Faith Through Imperfection
• 7:22 — Learning to Love: God's One Question
• 8:42 — Near-Death Experiences & the Afterlife
• 15:16 — God Drops as a Superpower
• 20:58 — Using AI with the Spirit
• 26:20 — Signs of the Last Days
• 31:57 — Finding Joy in the Chaos
• 34:44 — Lessons in Marriage & Partnership
• 37:49 — Her Granddaughter & Choosing Love
• 42:32 — Motherhood, Loss & God's Bigger Plan
• 50:23 — Mortality Is Just a Sliver
• 63:34 — Stepping Into Authenticity
• 76:36 — The Ripple Effect & Closing Thoughts

Show Notes

• Journal your own decade at adecadenevertobeforgotten.com or adntbf.com
• Becky's business: Only Subpoenas (subpoena services for attorneys)
• Becky's coaching: The Ripple Effect (coaching coaches and service providers)
• Referenced: Elder Bednar's talk to temple workers on the last days; Elder Uchtdorf on our molecular insignificance vs. divine worth; Elder Gong's upcoming AI fireside; Ether 12:27; the story of Eli and Samuel (Come, Follow Me); Gene R. Cook on miscarriage and eternal motherhood
• Becky's quote: "Don't ever look back unless you're looking back to see how far you've come."

Former BYU center Connor Pay is back for year two of his decade-long journey — and what a year it's been. From the highs of NFL mini camps with the Seattle Seahawks and Las Vegas Raiders, to an unexpected pivot into college coaching and international entrepreneurship, Connor's story is proof that God's plan is almost never the plan you made.

In this episode:

• The NFL dream — and what actually happened. Connor breaks down the brutal reality of life as an undrafted free agent: the bidding wars that went dark, the piece of paper in his locker, the flights that got canceled, and why not getting preseason film can end a career before it starts.
• Coaching at BYU. How a conversation with head coach Kalani Sitake turned into a full-time staff position — and why Connor never saw it coming.
• The We Are One Foundation. Connor is heading to Tonga in June to open an employment center for 130 remote workers, running in partnership with BYU Pathway. He's the VP of the foundation and co-founder of the affiliated company alongside Isaiah Kafue.
• NIL, the transfer portal, and real talk about money. Connor lived on both sides of the NIL era and is now coaching guys through it. His message: you may never make this much money again — invest now.
• Elder Rasband. A two-and-a-half-hour conversation about honesty, NIL, and revelation — leading to a friendship that ended with an apostle sealing Connor and his new wife Mallory in the temple.
• Mallory. She DM'd him on Instagram. He responded. They got married in February. Two months in, he's already the one filling up her water bottle before bed.
• D&C 88:73 and a phone password that finally made sense. One of the most quietly powerful "hand of the Lord" stories you'll hear — seven years in the making.
• How to receive revelation — what Elder Rasband taught Connor's younger brother Austin that applies to all of us.

Links:

• Track your own decade: adecadenevertobeforgotten.com — use the daily journal to answer a new question every day and watch your perspective change over the years
• The app: adntbf.com

Want to follow Connor's journey? Tune in again next year — and next time, Mallory's joining too.

In this episode of A Decade Never To Be Forgotten, Jethro catches up with Savannah one year after her mission. A lot has changed—she got married to her high school sweetheart Alec after reconnecting over the summer, and they moved fast with intention and spiritual confirmation.

Topics covered:

• How Savannah and Alec reconnected after their missions and decided to get married within months
• Finding spiritual confirmation through peace rather than dramatic revelation
• Maintaining good habits from missionary life in the "real world"
• The importance of regular temple attendance and finding something new each visit
• Early marriage adjustments (including learning to cook!)
• Switching from nursing to Communication Disorders/Speech Language Pathology
• Running her first marathon with minimal training—and losing four toenails
• Looking ahead to graduate school and using her spiritual gift of loving people in her future career

In this annual father-daughter conversation, Jethro D. Jones sits down with his daughter Cali to reflect on 2024 and look ahead to an exciting 2025. Cali shares her spiritual growth, her unique senior year with only three classes, her decision to serve a mission, and her travels to Germany.

Key Topics Discussed:

Spiritual Growth & Scripture Study

• Cali's deep dive into Doctrine & Covenants study
• Reading the Book of Mormon for the 9th time
• Weekly temple attendance as a personal commitment
• Making Jesus Christ a priority, not just a goal

Senior Year & Time Management

• Taking only 3 classes (English, Art, and Calculus)
• Learning Parkinson's Law firsthand
• Using free time for temple visits, walks with mom, and work
• Earning the Seal of Biliteracy in Spanish

Mission Decision

• Announcement of serving a mission starting August 2025
• How the age change for sister missionaries influenced her decision
• Feeling spiritually prepared and at peace with the choice
• Hopes to serve internationally and learn a new language

Germany Trip Highlights

• Traveling with dad and staying with his mission friend's family
• Running 14 miles through a former coal mine
• Visiting Berlin, the Berlin Wall, and Prague
• Experiencing authentic German culture (including pasta with watered-down ketchup)

Looking Ahead

• Monthly challenges leading up to the mission (No Spend January, meditation in February)
• Track season and the steeplechase
• Running Katya's fundraiser for Shriners Hospital
• Graduating high school and trip to Scotland with mom
• Forest Frank concert with sister Eloise

Memorable Quotes:

• "Last year I wanted to make Him a priority, but this year He is a priority."
• "I'm the most ready person out there—I'm not gonna be shy about that."
• "Being sad about it isn't really gonna change anything."

Resources Mentioned:

• A Decade Never to Be Forgotten journaling app: adecadenevertobeforgotten.com
• Come Follow Me study program
• Shriners Hospital fundraiser

Introduction: Jethro and Staci reflect on the second year of their decade-long journey, setting the stage for a candid and insightful conversation.
Lightning Round: Quick-fire questions about marriage, parenting, and personal growth, including communication, handling trials, and surprising lessons as parents.
Family Traditions & Spiritual Practices: The importance of family vacations, daily prayer, and integrating spiritual habits into everyday life.
Gratitude & Inspiration in Trials: Finding gratitude and peace during difficult times, and sharing recent books and talks that have inspired personal growth.
Celebrating Small Wins: The value of acknowledging and celebrating achievements as a family, and how goal-setting and support foster a positive environment.
What We Wish People Would Ask: Honest reflections on the questions they wish others would ask about their journey, and the joy found in growth and resilience.
Trusting in the Lord Through Financial Struggles: Stories of faith, miracles, and provision during financial challenges, and the lessons learned from budgeting and trusting in divine help.
The Doctoral Journey: Navigating the ups and downs of pursuing a doctorate, including closed doors, unexpected opportunities, and the importance of perseverance.
When It's Right, It Flows: Recognizing moments of alignment and peace when following the right path, even amidst effort and uncertainty.
Faith Without Works: The necessity of taking action, using agency, and working in partnership with faith to achieve goals and receive guidance.
Milestones vs. Identity: Shifting focus from external achievements to embracing divine identity and finding peace beyond milestones.
A Decade of Growth and Change: Reflections on personal and family growth, preparing children for independence, and the evolving nature of goals and expectations.
Preparing Kids for Life: Teaching responsibility, life skills, and spiritual habits to children, and celebrating their unique paths and strengths.
Generational Blessings & Spiritual Legacy: The impact of family heritage, faith traditions, and the compounding effect of generational efforts on spiritual growth.
Closing Thoughts: Looking ahead to the coming year with optimism, gratitude, and a commitment to continued growth and discovery.

Key Themes: Faith, family, resilience, personal growth, spiritual practices, parenting, financial stewardship, and the power of tradition and legacy.

Takeaway: Jethro and Staci share a heartfelt, honest look at the challenges and blessings of their journey, offering wisdom and encouragement for anyone navigating their own decade of change.

In this episode, we catch up with Courtney and her husband Trevor Thornton for their second-year interview. The conversation starts with an introduction to Trevor and explores the couple's journey, including their decision to homeschool their children and prioritize family. They delve into the creation of a multi-year journal designed to help users reflect on their lives over a decade and how this has impacted their own experiences. Courtney opens up about how the loss of their daughter, Presley, has influenced their family priorities and spiritual growth. They also talk about their recent trip to Alaska and how it reinforced their appreciation for nature and God's creations. The Thorntons share their ongoing project of converting their annual blanket drive into a non-profit organization, aiming to support more NICUs and make a broader impact. They conclude with a discussion on their current church callings and their hopes for maintaining a strong family focus over the next decade.

01:35 Meet Trevor: Courtney's Husband
02:49 Trevor's Career Journey
04:07 Reflecting on Last Year's Interview
04:56 The Importance of Family
07:08 Homeschooling Challenges and Insights
09:55 Incorporating Real-Life Learning
17:13 Balancing Roles: Teacher and Parent
20:41 Spiritual Guidance in Homeschooling
34:27 The Impact of Losing Presley
43:46 Future Plans: Nonprofit Organization
48:33 Local Hospital Support and Blanket Donations
50:04 Reflecting on the Impact of Blanket Donations
51:13 Debating the Future of the Blanket Drive
51:47 The Emotional Significance of the Blanket Drive
53:13 The Purpose Behind the Blanket Drive
54:04 Balancing Personal Grief and Helping Others
54:51 The Decision to Continue the Blanket Drive
56:40 The Role of Faith and Divine Timing
01:00:51 Starting a Nonprofit: Steps and Motivation
01:05:23 The Importance of Taking Action
01:14:41 Family Trip to Alaska
01:17:26 Experiencing Spiritual Moments on the Cruise
01:20:05 Appreciating Nature and God's Creations
01:25:03 Future Priorities and Family Focus
01:28:20 Current Callings and Final Thoughts

In this episode, we explore the remarkable story of Lindi Marcusen, a Paralympian whose life took a drastic turn following a traumatic car accident. Lindi recounts her journey from being a vibrant college student to facing life-altering injuries, including losing a leg and suffering a traumatic brain injury. Despite these challenges, she found resilience, became a Paralympic athlete, and now inspires others facing similar trials. Lindi shares deep insights into her recovery, the importance of self-care, and how faith and a supportive community helped her navigate her new reality. Her journey underscores the power of perseverance and staying focused on one's goals, even when life diverges drastically from initial plans.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:37 Lindi's Early Life and Relationship
03:00 The Accident and Its Aftermath
07:40 Rehabilitation and Recovery
20:28 Faith and Personal Struggles
29:49 Journey to Becoming a Paralympian
33:37 The Love for Sprinting
34:07 Starting with Parasport
34:49 Overcoming Doubts and Challenges
35:58 Current Achievements and Teaching Others
36:51 Balancing Career and Passion
39:45 Rediscovering Artistic Side
41:17 Finding Joy in the Mundane
47:47 The Paralympic Journey
56:38 Building a Supportive Team
01:00:25 Growing Closer to Christ
01:05:18 Lessons from the Past Year

Becky Sampson sits down with host Jethro Jones to trace the pivotal moments that shaped her faith, health, and purpose—from childhood shame and food addiction to an abusive first marriage, dramatic career pivots, and her mission-driven resolve to help others navigate divorce and self-worth through Christ. Over two and a half hours, Becky’s candor and resilience reveal how God weaves trials into a decade never to be forgotten.

Key Takeaways

• Shame → Hiding → Binge-Eating Loop – how a single childhood comment ignited years of self-sabotage and weight gain.
• Answering the Call – why Becky’s seemingly “undesirable” Idaho-Pocatello mission became a spiritual anchor.
• Cycles of Abuse & Accountability – candid reflections on being both victim and perpetrator in a toxic first marriage.
• From Radio Tears to Public Coaching – the leap that turned raw story-telling into a platform for service.
• Divorce Advocacy – founding OnlySubpoenas.com to guide others through complex, often hidden, legal and emotional battles.
• Temple Time & Self-Care – slowing down to let God recalibrate priorities amid relentless service.
• The Next Ten Years – Becky’s commitment to return annually and share how obedience shapes her unfolding story.

0:02:30 | Becky recalls her extroverted childhood and early “gusto.”
0:07:45 | The origin of shame → “stupid” label → food as comfort & secret binge-eating
0:15:05 | Deciding to serve an LDS mission when that was rare for young women.
0:22:05 | Receiving an unexpected call to the Idaho-Pocatello Mission—and its hidden purpose.
0:45:30 | Marriage #1: physical & emotional abuse, miscarriage surgeries, and the reinforcing “I deserve this” cycle.
0;59:30 | Spiritual wake-up in the Las Vegas Temple the day before starting a food-recovery program.
1:09:50 | First on-air breakdown: hosting a two-hour live radio show that launched public coaching.
1:29:50 | Maintaining goal weight while confronting external pressure and relapse fears.
1:37:10 | Filing for (second) divorce, learning legal strategy, and sensing God’s hand in timing.
2:00:58 | Birth of OnlySubpoenas.com—using detective skills to uncover hidden assets for clients.
2:10:05 | Setting boundaries: “I don’t need your permission to take care of myself.”
2:16:45 | Discovering a shared LDS backdrop with Jethro; looking ahead to yearly check-ins.
2:28:34 | Closing tears, gratitude, and blessing listeners to find Christ in their own trials.

Links & Resources

• Companion 10-Year Journal: ADNTBF.com / ADecadeNeverToBeForgotten.com
• Becky’s divorce-advocacy firm: OnlySubpoenas.com

Join host Jethro Jones as he sits down with Moses Lwakihugo, an immigrant from the Democratic Republic of the Congo with an unforgettable story. Moses shares his harrowing experiences of living through the war in the Congo, fleeing to Burundi and Kenya, and eventually finding peace and happiness in the U.S. Despite witnessing unthinkable atrocities, including the murder of his father, Moses's faith has remained steadfast, greatly influenced by the gospel of Jesus Christ. Today, he leads a multi-lingual, Swahili-speaking group in Spokane, Washington, where he helps immigrants acclimate to their new lives while spreading the message of hope and faith. Discover how Moses turned his pain into purpose and how his journey is inspiring countless others.

01:15 Moses's Journey to America
02:12 Faith and Family in Spokane
04:29 A Divine Encounter at WinCo
12:44 Joining the Church
15:54 Reflections on War and Faith
31:36 Helping Refugees and Giving Back
36:24 Experiences in the Church
37:33 A Life-Changing Decision
37:59 Connecting Across Continents
39:31 Translating the Gospel
41:01 Forming a Swahili Branch
41:31 Global Outreach Through Zoom
43:48 A Multilingual Congregation
45:32 Personal Testimonies and Experiences
53:54 The Importance of the Gospel
58:46 Reflections on Trials and Faith
01:05:07 A Miraculous Birth
01:06:38 Final Thoughts and Gratitude