For this episode, Bruce invited his wife, Sarah, on to talk about their journey through and out of the Evangelical purity and modesty culture over the last 10 years of their marriage. 

This conversation was prompted by a social media post that Sarah shared about the contrast between our honeymoon in Freeport, Grand Bahamas Islands, and our 10 year anniversary in Cancun, Mexico. Here's what she wrote:

***On my honeymoon ten years ago, Bruce told me he didn’t want me to wear a bikini because he didn’t want men looking at me.

Fast forward to this week on our ten-year anniversary and I wore three different bikinis- all cheeky and fabulous- and he loved it and didn’t even care what other men thought.

I share this to put it out there how far we’ve come, he and I. We’ve become so aware of the toxic purity culture we’d been indoctrinated with as we grew up. This trip was amazing for us but I got the bonus of finding freedom from “modest is hottest”.

And *mostly importantly* I threw off the shackles of shame. I haven’t shown my belly button in 13 years! But this week I ignored those voices telling me I need to hide my body and I did 👏🏻 the 👏🏻 exact 👏🏻 opposite 👏🏻 And you know what happened? I found so much freedom! I felt sexy and confident and so free from shame or responsibility for what other people do with their eyes and their minds.

I accepted my body with all of her stretch marks and loose skin and sheer jiggly sex appeal. And every part of my soul was at peace.***

After it got 20K+ reactions and hundreds of comments, I thought it was worth us talking about the path we took. I know it may seem like a little thing to go from "don't wear a bikini" to wearing three, but it really is an important thing and we thought it was worth sharing our journey.