https://3speak.tv/watch?v=tas.media/yomwjpsy
"A great deal of your anger involves your defense against loss of self-esteem, when people criticize you, disagree with you, or fail to behave as you want them to. Such anger is always inappropriate because only your own negative distorted thoughts can cause you to lose your self-esteem. When you blame the other guy for your feelings of worthlessness, you are always fooling yourself."

Dr. David D Burns. Feeling Good.

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