In this episode we meet Anna Tomkins, creator of ‘Handbook for Today’, a set of guided journals to introduce tools and positive mindsets to encourage wellbeing and personal growth. Also, as the creator of  the ‘Handbook for Getting Hitched’ journals, Anna is perfectly equipped to discuss and advise on all things relationships. John and Anna talk about her journals and how they can help to achieve wellbeing, how couples can invest in their future together by asking the right questions at the start, Anna’s own romantic relationships and tips about how to communicate effectively.
KEY TAKEAWAYS

• ‘Handbook for Today’ prompts the user to journal thoughts, be guided into positive thinking by noting learning opportunities gained and incidents of uplifting events that occurred throughout their day and gives them tools to achieve a healthy mindset.
• Small occurrences, (smiles, interactions, pleasurable experiences), can be noted as enjoyable experiences that can increase our sense of well being.
• ‘Handbook for Getting Hitched’ encourages couples to discuss important things before getting married or embarking on a long term relationship that would normally be quite awkward to approach, or simply overlooked. 
• Anna finds being comfortable in one's own company allows you to make better decisions based less on need to be partnered and more on aspects like compatibility and mindset.
• The significance in communication is evident in the need to verify if both parties are ready for a discussion at all, for instance. Asking if someone is ready for a serious discussion and identifying a good time to do so is part of a good level of communication.

BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s about recognising those very small things that maybe we would overlook or don’t recognise but actually that touching of nature and stuff brings something up that we really enjoy.’ – John
‘The Church (of England) gives you a nudge to do a wedding preparation course or read some kind of manuals. I really enjoyed doing that. I really thought it was a great idea.’ - Anna
‘In a couple everybody is entitled to ask those questions and there is not that much help and the workbooks are really just something to guide through these questions.’ – Anna
‘In retrospect I consider myself very lucky because I’m quite ok in my own company so I was  not always looking for a partner to bring something into my life.’ – Anna
‘I wasn’t prepared to meet anyone, which was brilliant, because there was no ‘performance’ on my side and I don’t think on his side either.’ – Anna
‘People that don’t really have that (support network) do really struggle to break away from these unhappy spaces that they're in, even if it’s a work one as well.’ – John
GUEST RESOURCES
Contact: www.handbookfortoday.com
Instagram: @handbookfortoday to get the freebie offer
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Link to my workshop - https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 
Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
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