maybe the boxes you've been trying to get someone to check off your list are not the boxes you should be looking for. let's talk about the building blocks of healthy relationships and how all the other stuff is just a cherry on top. are all of the qualities that we THINK will make us happy in our relationships letting us down? likely, the answer is yes. we've been putting too much emphasis on things that are not fulfilling us and making us feel truly happy in our relationships.