A Latte to Learn

Confused isn't a personality trait. So why do we keep entertaining people who make us question everything?

In this episode, we’re getting into the psychology of situationships, the dopamine of inconsistency, attachment styles, why the chase can feel addictive, the sunk cost fallacy, and why asking “what are we?” somehow feels scarier than staying confused.

Because maybe it’s not chemistry. Maybe it’s intermittent reinforcement.

Grab your coffee, because we’re talking about why we tolerate the grey area, and how to finally get some clarity.

After the discovery of eight women’s bodies in Ekurhuleni, I’ve been thinking about what it actually means to be a woman in South Africa right now.

The fear. The safety rules. The constant “text me when you get home.” The anger. And the question of whether we’re really living, or just learning how to survive.

This episode is an honest conversation about womanhood, GBV, safety, sisterhood and wanting more than survival.

In this episode of A Latte to Learn, we’re diving into the unpopular opinions that make you pause, question the norm, and maybe rethink something you’ve always believed.

From why not everyone needs closure, to why some friendships should’ve ended sooner, why “good vibes only” can be toxic, and why healing doesn’t always look aesthetic, we’re unpacking the takes that sound controversial at first, but might actually make a lot of sense.

And yes… we’re talking about the nice guy persona being a scam. 👀

No rage bait. No “my opinion is the only correct one.” Just spicy takes, honest conversations, and a little bit of “okay, hear me out…”

Agree? Disagree? Somewhere in between?

Send in your unpopular opinions for Part 2.

Some goodbyes are loud, but the hardest ones are often the quiet ones.

In this week's episode of A Latte to Learn, we're talking about the feeling that everybody is moving on while you're standing still. From friendships that slowly fade and people who outgrow your life, to the pressure of watching everyone else hit milestones before you, we're diving into what it really means to feel left behind in your 20s.

We'll chat about friendship grief, comparison, loneliness, and the fear of being forgotten, but also how to rebuild your confidence, reconnect with yourself, and move forward when life doesn't go according to plan.

So if you've ever wondered why everyone seems to be leaving, or felt like you're falling behind, this coffee chat is for you.

Can friendships survive when two people don’t feel equally secure in themselves?

In this episode of A Latte to Learn, we explore the quiet tension that happens when growth, confidence, and insecurity collide within friendships. From subtle shifts in energy to the guilt of outgrowing people you love, this conversation unpacks what it really means to navigate relationships in different seasons of self-worth.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like they had to dim themselves, hesitate before sharing good news, or question whether they’re outgrowing someone or themselves.

Feeling uninspired? You’re not lazy, you might just be outgrowing the version of yourself that relied on motivation to get through life.

In this episode, I share my three-month struggle with overwhelm, creative blocks, and questioning my own spark. We talk about why motivation is fleeting, why showing up consistently matters more, and how identity (not inspiration) drives real growth.

If you’ve ever felt stuck or flat, this episode is your reminder that shedding old versions of yourself is uncomfortable… but necessary for what’s next.

In this finale of season one, I’m spilling the realness: the struggles, the wins, the quiet joys, and everything I learned this year. No resolutions, just small life goals, big lessons, and a whole lot of gratitude.

From anxiety and friendships that shifted, to music, matcha lattes, and moments that kept me steady- this episode is for anyone ending 2025 tired, hopeful, or somewhere in between.

Grab your coffee, take a deep breath, and join me for the last sip of 2025.

In this episode, Nabbihun shares her family’s story of losing her aunty to gender-based violence. She unpacks South Africa’s femicide crisis, the failures of our justice system, and the urgent need for community action. This episode discusses themes of violence and may be distressing to some listeners.

If you or someone you know is affected by GBV:

• ​GBV Command Centre: 0800 428 428 / SMS “HELP” to 31531
• ​LifeLine SA: 0861 322 322
• ​POWA (People Opposing Women Abuse): 011 642 4345

Why is everyone in a situationship? In this episode of A Latte to Learn, we’re spilling the coffee on the messy middle ground between “just friends” and “officially dating.” Situationships can feel cozy and exciting, but underneath, they’re often just cracked mugs- leaking energy, time, and self-worth.

We’ll unpack:

• ​What a situationship really is (and why it’s not as casual as it looks)
• ​Why our generation clings to “almost relationships”
• ​The emotional toll of living in limbo
• ​The red flags you might be ignoring (yes, ghosting counts)
• ​How to stop settling for crumbs and ask for the clarity you deserve

This episode is your gentle nudge to stop auditioning for a role you already deserve. Because crumbs aren’t a meal, and you’re not asking for too much, you might just be asking the wrong person.

In this episode of A Latte to Learn, we unpack the female gaze- aka what women actually find attractive (hint: it’s not just abs and arrogance). We're talking presence over performance, emotional intelligence over ego, and style that says “I journal” not “I just showered.”

Expect:

• ​A breakdown of why women love men with layers
• ​The icks that instantly kill the vibe
• ​Green flags that quietly scream “boyfriend material”

Whether you’re the emotionally in-tune kinda type or the guy still figuring it out- this one’s for you.

Grab your coffee and get ready to take notes. Because being a multifaceted man? That’s the new attractive.