How do you create change when your starting point is success? It's a question that women wouldn't have been asking as little as a few decades ago, but as more of us move into traditionally male-dominated fields, many are wondering, isn't it selfish to want more? In this episode, Sallie Holder talks about her new book and what it means to hit “Rock Middle”. Find out how you can change your alignment if on the outside you “look" successful but on the inside, you are unfulfilled.

TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Is there a link between personal and professional growth?
• How to set your own individual and personal goals outside your corporate goals.
• How to cultivate bravery to speak the truth to yourself to make hard changes in your life.
• Southern expectations for women and how they are still present in many women’s lives today.
• How do you create change when your starting point is success? 
• How to listen to your inner voice when it’s calling for you to pick that path for your soul and what it wants you to do
• Why women blame ourselves when we feel something isn’t right.
• What is “stinking thinking”?
• Where do subconscious beliefs pertaining to women’s “roadmaps to success” come from?
• How women lead differently.

#LESSONUP

(4:23) Have you ever been in your car and you were driving home one day and you intended to stop for an errand, whether it was run by the bank or go to the grocery store, but for whatever reason you're in a daze and you're driving, driving, driving, and then somehow you drove home without even thinking about it? So I equate the first 15 years of my professional career, like me just asleep at the wheel, driving in the car and I should have stopped for all of those errands and things. And had I been awake, I would have, but I wasn't.

(6:51) I felt completely stuck, because I was in this successful career and how could I possibly leave when I was externally successful?

(7:48) And for me that's what rock middle was, was that point where the two parts didn't align. And so you don't have to be in a position where you're wanting to change careers, or anything like that. It could be in a position where you're out of alignment and you know that you have more to give the world than what you're currently giving.

(8:57) I think what's interesting is that if you think of middle, or if I thought of middle, if you think of mediocrity but it's actually not. It's excellence. You were achieving, in overachieving mode, which is what a lot of women do and they are looking for that fulfillment in the achievements.

(11:15) We were all put on this earth todo something unique. And I believe that what we're here to do is figure out what that is and be able to give that gift not only to ourselves, but to the world.

(12:10) My belief is that when you're doing the thing that you were meant to do, the work will be easier, you will flow through it faster, you will be able to give unique traits to it that no one else can give, that will make you stand out remarkably. 

(17:07) I want people to know that it's not selfish to at some point question whether or not you're on the right path.

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