Matchmaker Buffie Lilly says there really is a lid for every pot - but it might take some time, a good bit of work on yourself, and more talking than swiping to find yours.

Eight years ago, standing in the seventh wedding brought about by her introduction, Buffie realized her knack for pairing people could be more than a favor or hobby. In that instant, Charleston Wine Pairings was born; now she keeps count of the babies born from her matches as well as the marriages. 
 
You'll love hearing Buffie's tales from the job, the rules her clients follow, her best tips and biggest no-nos for your next date, and how matchmaking involves playing therapist, tough-love talker, stylist and cheerleader in equal measure.

Her brash, warm-hearted, direct advice may be just what you need to start showing the world who you really are, whether you're in the dating pool or not. 

Looking for love in Charleston or across the globe? Find Buffie on social media at @CharlestonWinePairings.

Submit your questions for Buffie's next "date" with us at @butnotallatonce on Instagram or [email protected]. 

Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com.

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