A Life, Folded

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It's difficult being alone, but it is more difficult living with a partner who is not keeping their marital covenants. Who thinks fidelity is an option. Now that I've navigated my divorce from a lying, cheating narcissist, I worry about the one who stays. The one who feels like they have no options. I'm not an advocate of leaving or staying in a relationship, but I feel sorrow for individuals who stay in intolerable situations because they have told themselves that they have no needs. That they are not worthy of honor and peace. You are worthy of love. You deserve love. 

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Even years after your divorce and healing, there is still profound sorrow. And that is okay. That is normal. When you have a beautiful, loving soul, you feel loss. You feel sorrow at what you never had and that your dreams won't come true as you had envisioned them. So don't castigate yourself for having a normal, human experience. Instead, celebrate how amazing it is that you believe so strongly in love and that you have a deep and caring heart. 

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Sometimes lifelong people-pleasers and those who give without boundaries simply snap. They realize that their blanket giving is not being returned. Their meter for the bullcrap of being used, taken advantage of, and not having their needs met is moving toward zero. And they start saying no. They start putting in healthy boundaries. They think before saying yes. The zero bullcrap meter may seem harsh to some, but it is actually very loving. You can't draw from an empty well. 

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"I'll be so happy when the baby is finally out of diapers." "When I get that big promotion, my life will be awesome!" "I know that if I can just find a partner to love me again, then everything in my life will finally be okay." 

We can spend our days and lives waiting for "tomorrow" to find happiness. The idea that when such-and-such occurs, then we'll be better. This idea is false. We can relentlessly pursue our own happiness right this very moment. The sad truth is that after surviving betrayal or emotional abuse, if we don't focus on ourselves and do our healing work, even if we met someone, we probably won't be happy. Happiness is something we can find for ourselves and should find for ourselves. Don't wait for tomorrows. What is one thing you can do today to find a small moment of happiness...now?!

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Is it really possible to heal and then thrive after you have been emotionally destroyed through the narcissistic discard at the hands of someone you deeply loved and trusted? Yes! Absolutely! This episode discusses easy and practical strategies that will help victims of the cruel discard find ways to heal and thrive again. It is possible!

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Psychopath Free, Jackson MacKenzie

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Sexual coercion is often described like this quote taken from the National Domestic Violence Hotline: "Have you ever felt pressured by your partner to have sex? Have you ever felt guilted into it, or felt like you weren’t able to say no? Abuse is often centered on power and control in all aspects of the relationship, so it’s not uncommon that an abusive partner will try to force intimacy.

This is often referred to as sexual coercion, which lies on the continuum of sexually aggressive behavior. It can vary from being egged on and persuaded, to being forced to have contact. It can be verbal and emotional, in the form of statements that make you feel pressure, guilt, or shame.”

This type of guilt and unwanted intimacy happens far too often in relationships. Sexually aggressive behavior is directly influenced by porn. The chances of sexually violent behavior increase as porn use escalates and a bigger and bigger "hit" is needed for the same high.

You do not have to be abused in this way. You have right to say when, how, where, and who can touch your body.

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National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): Call 800-656-HOPE (4673) or visit RAINN for 24/7 confidential, free support.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 800-799-7233, text "START" to 88788, or visit The Hotline if the coercion is occurring within a dating or marital relationship.

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Being deeply wounded by unhealthy and toxic individuals can cast a shadow over our entire lives and damage our self-worth. Do we keep allowing cluster b personality disordered individuals into our lives, destroying our peace? Or have we been hurt by someone with an attachment wound? How are narcissists and avoidant attachment style individuals similar? How do the differ? How do we spot them? How do we heal so we can forever open ourselves up to healthy relationships?

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As we navigate life after experiencing betrayal trauma or post-divorce, we find many who share similar experiences. Being deeply hurt by a person they loved and were devoted to. The shock and grief of finding out they have been cheated on. We don't have to suffer in silence and shame. We can reach out for support if we so choose. We can refuse to accept the blame of toxic individuals in our lives. We have a voice. We all have an unique purpose that only we can fulfill. Can you feel a touch of excitement when you consider what your future might hold? Healing? Giving back? Peace?

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Narcissists are master manipulators of everyone and everything. Of their family. Of their workplace. Of their congregation. But, they are especially concerned about managing their public persona. That whatever mask they like to wear, that people see them in that light. The helpful neighbor who abuses their family behind closed doors. The fun-loving colleague who is running you down and trying to destroy your career behind your back. Cluster b personality disordered individual go to great lengths to manipulate the opinions of outsiders, only showing them their carefully curated public persona. The praises people sing about your abuser can be jarring, until you realize and accept what lengths narcissists will go to maintain their mask.

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After suffering through betrayal trauma, you might experience severe brain fog, an inability to remember, trouble making even basic decisions, lack of focus, and difficulties performing tasks that require deeper thinking. Has betrayal trauma permanently changed your IQ? Are you now stupid? No. There can be a temporary drop in IQ after suffering through intense emotional experiences. Let's look at the science of what happens after betrayal and the realistic hope of how you will return to normal again.  

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