A Life, Folded

Is it possible to transform, to be whole again, after discovering your intimate partner is using porn or you have suffered through betrayal trauma? Absolutely. You can, and will, heal and find peace and happiness again in your life. 

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Is it possible that narcissists, the masters of lying, duplicity, and secrecy, might try to get caught in their despicable behavior on purpose? It is, and here are some common reasons why they might want to get caught and how they might possibly behave when they are. 

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Fight. Flight. Freeze. Fawn. Flop. These are all highly common trauma responses. Experiencing these responses is normal. It's your brain's way of dealing with a traumatic even that it perceives as a threat. Understanding and gentle self-love, compassion, and grace go a long way to recovering your nervous system health. 

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My therapist asked me a question once that rocked my world: do you think you can ever have compassion for your narcissistic ex-husband? I laughed. But she was serious. This caused me to deeply think about the real life of a narcissist. I may or may not be able to have compassion for the narcissist, but I do know their empty reality never trumps the goodness of the people who loved them and were cruelly hurt and manipulated.

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It's difficult being alone, but it is more difficult living with a partner who is not keeping their marital covenants. Who thinks fidelity is an option. Now that I've navigated my divorce from a lying, cheating narcissist, I worry about the one who stays. The one who feels like they have no options. I'm not an advocate of leaving or staying in a relationship, but I feel sorrow for individuals who stay in intolerable situations because they have told themselves that they have no needs. That they are not worthy of honor and peace. You are worthy of love. You deserve love. 

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Even years after your divorce and healing, there is still profound sorrow. And that is okay. That is normal. When you have a beautiful, loving soul, you feel loss. You feel sorrow at what you never had and that your dreams won't come true as you had envisioned them. So don't castigate yourself for having a normal, human experience. Instead, celebrate how amazing it is that you believe so strongly in love and that you have a deep and caring heart. 

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Sometimes lifelong people-pleasers and those who give without boundaries simply snap. They realize that their blanket giving is not being returned. Their meter for the bullcrap of being used, taken advantage of, and not having their needs met is moving toward zero. And they start saying no. They start putting in healthy boundaries. They think before saying yes. The zero bullcrap meter may seem harsh to some, but it is actually very loving. You can't draw from an empty well. 

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"I'll be so happy when the baby is finally out of diapers." "When I get that big promotion, my life will be awesome!" "I know that if I can just find a partner to love me again, then everything in my life will finally be okay." 

We can spend our days and lives waiting for "tomorrow" to find happiness. The idea that when such-and-such occurs, then we'll be better. This idea is false. We can relentlessly pursue our own happiness right this very moment. The sad truth is that after surviving betrayal or emotional abuse, if we don't focus on ourselves and do our healing work, even if we met someone, we probably won't be happy. Happiness is something we can find for ourselves and should find for ourselves. Don't wait for tomorrows. What is one thing you can do today to find a small moment of happiness...now?!

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Is it really possible to heal and then thrive after you have been emotionally destroyed through the narcissistic discard at the hands of someone you deeply loved and trusted? Yes! Absolutely! This episode discusses easy and practical strategies that will help victims of the cruel discard find ways to heal and thrive again. It is possible!

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Psychopath Free, Jackson MacKenzie

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Sexual coercion is often described like this quote taken from the National Domestic Violence Hotline: "Have you ever felt pressured by your partner to have sex? Have you ever felt guilted into it, or felt like you weren’t able to say no? Abuse is often centered on power and control in all aspects of the relationship, so it’s not uncommon that an abusive partner will try to force intimacy.

This is often referred to as sexual coercion, which lies on the continuum of sexually aggressive behavior. It can vary from being egged on and persuaded, to being forced to have contact. It can be verbal and emotional, in the form of statements that make you feel pressure, guilt, or shame.”

This type of guilt and unwanted intimacy happens far too often in relationships. Sexually aggressive behavior is directly influenced by porn. The chances of sexually violent behavior increase as porn use escalates and a bigger and bigger "hit" is needed for the same high.

You do not have to be abused in this way. You have right to say when, how, where, and who can touch your body.

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National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): Call 800-656-HOPE (4673) or visit RAINN for 24/7 confidential, free support.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 800-799-7233, text "START" to 88788, or visit The Hotline if the coercion is occurring within a dating or marital relationship.

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