In an episode of personal storytelling, Imani and I disclose the cognitive dissonance we both faced during our Master’s programs in Psychology; Studying attachment trauma while simultaneously being in toxic relationships. 

From a place of intimate experience and resonance Imani shares why people stay in toxic relationships, the power and clarity available to you in a season of solitude, and how to let pain transform you. 

Imani directs us back to childhood as the starting point, teaches us the core issues anxious attachers struggle with, and the antidote to shame. 

She redefines love for us, and invites us to stretch into the acceptance that someone can deeply love you and hurt you in moments, but the repair needs to have more bandwidth than that hurt. 

To expand a relational container, it will require you to find the edge of service, sacrifice, and how to walk back from Self abandonment. 

In this Episode you’ll learn about:
- Healing anxious attachment
- How to surrender control and receive instead 
- Why you stay in toxic relationships
- Why humility is the antidote to shame
- Why seasons of solitude deeply serve you
- The difference between sacrifice and Self abandonment
- Releasing the fear of being alone 
- How to offer corrective experiences in relationship
- Integrating into relationship after a season of solitude

About Imani: Imani.intouch is a LMFT, Relationship Coach and a Disciple of Christ who believes in the power of change and growth. With a compassionate and authentic approach, she helps clients confront their inner wounds and break free from harmful patterns. Imani creates a safe and playful space for clients to explore and transform, all while facing hard truths and cultivating an embodied awareness. Her unique perspective makes the healing process enjoyable and transformative while teaching individuals how to heal from insecure attachment and alchemize the relationship with their insecurities.

How and Where to Connect with Imani Tutt
Imani's Website
Download Imani’s Free Mini Journal ‘Break Free Of The Habits That Hold You Back’
Join Imani’s, ‘Awakening Consciousness Community, The Ultimate Security Community’
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Favorite Quotes from the Podcast
“It's always something tied to your childhood. That’s everyone's starting point.” - Imani Tutt

“Solitude is an identification process.” - Imani Tutt

“You're going to stay in an unhealthy relationship longer if your solitude doesn't feel good.” - Imani Tutt

”If you anxiously attach, it's because you have a control problem.” - Imani Tutt

“People are usually going to hear things from their wounding and where they are in regards to their level of emotional maturity.” - Imani Tutt 

“You can't teach someone how to be honest. “ - Imani Tutt

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