We got more big news: Fr. Shay is writing another book! In this episode, he talks about his inspiration to write, 'No One Taught Me How to Be a Man: What a Trans Man's Experience Reveals About Masculinity.' We discuss the shifts in masculinity and how it is viewed among different groups, navigating masculinity as a trans man, and the crisis of masculinity. Shay shares how the gift of transness and the importance of intentionality has shaped his own masculinity. Cis folks can learn alot from a trans perspective on masculinity, you're gonna want to check out his book!

Takeaways

• Masculinity is a complex and evolving concept that can be explored through personal experiences and research.

• There is a crisis of masculinity that affects men's physical and mental health, relationships, and overall well-being.

• Men can divest from harmful masculinities by listening to others' experiences, examining their own behaviors and choices, and being intentional in their actions.

• Trans individuals have a unique perspective on masculinity and can offer valuable insights into redefining and understanding it.

• The journey of self-discovery and intentional masculinity can lead to a deeper sense of self and healthier relationships.

Chapters

(0:00) Intro

(4:09) The Inspiration for the Book

(8:29) Shifts in Masculinity from 2008 to 2023

(10:24) Navigating Masculinity as a Trans Man

(21:05) The Crisis of Masculinity

(25:34) Navigating the Fraught Conversation

(26:55) Actions for Divesting from Harmful Masculinities

(31:49) Staying Updated on the Book

(33:14) Outro

Resources:

• Get more info on Fr. Shay's book and join his email list at shannontlkearns.com

• Join the Sanctuary Collective Community

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