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After a disastrous weekend left me hungover, humiliated, and alone, I turned on the TV and saw the Notre Dame Cathedral burning — and somehow, it felt personal. This episode picks up right where the spiral ended and walks straight into the fire: my first experiences with AA.

I talk about the shame, the silence, and why those rooms never felt like mine — even when I was desperate for something to work. I know AA has helped millions, and I honor that. But I also know I’m not the only queer person who walked in needing connection and walked out feeling even more broken.

This one’s about gatekeeping, grit, and what happens when you realize your path to sobriety might not follow anyone else’s map.