Abby Wambach remembers how she felt after winning an ESPY Icon Award in 2016 along with fellow sports stars Kobe Bryant, who passed this week in a helicopter accident, and Peyton Manning: pissed.

She was grateful — We women we finally made it! she thought — but then she realized that the three of them were walking into very different retirements, she told conference attendees at Inman Connect New York in a session called “Unleashing Your Power to Change the Game.”