You must handle your marriage honourably. When a wife submits to her husband and the husband loves his wife, it balances the equation for an ideal and crisis-free home. A husband disrespected, disregarded, and abused leaves the wife headless. The sacrifice of Jesus is to create a fellowship of a special and peculiar people full of good works. Let your home reflect the good works. Grace isn't for the church environment but to start with you, your home and your work. If you have chosen to hate your wife, you have bought the key of hell, to open at will. Then, your acceptance of Jesus was fake.