We have a duty to ourselves to be accountable and responsible for our lives. Rather than staying stuck as a victim, when we are accountable and responsible we take ownership of our careers, relationships, and ourselves. Although at times we may feel like pawns in the chess game of life, we all have Free Will to make changes at any time we feel victimized, unhappy or disempowered. Life really does not happen by chance, we must be willing to be accountable and responsible for our own. All relationships, even spiritually connected ones, need both parties to share accountability,  and take responsibility for their words and actions for them to succeed.