How often do you really listen? Do you listen to respond? How can you become a better listener?

In this podcast, Billy and Brandy Eldridge talk about active listening and how to listen with the intent to understand.

In This Podcast

Summary

* How do you listen?

* Understanding active listening

How do you listen?

We often have a hard time listening, as people and as betas. As a result, many people don’t feel heard. The truth is, you can’t truly resolve conflict without active listening. 

The core of the conflict is always selfishness and lack of communication. Selfish acts keep us from not being heard. As a beta, Billy internalizes or bottles things up and he gets his feelings hurt a lot. As an alpha, Brandy is direct and gets right to it.

Let’s take a look at their most recent argument for example. It was about the podcast. Billy wanted to take some time and come back to it later as it was overwhelming, and Brandy with her alpha personality was assertive and wanted to get the stuff done. Billy wanted to be connected, regulated, and centered. 

Understanding active listening

Active listening means listening more than you talk. It means listening with the intent to understand.

How do you listen to understand? For Billy, it means getting out of his head thinking about what he’s going to say next. It means going into your head and heart. Most of the time we’re listening to respond and not understand.

Are you listening to understand?

After a fight, do some self-reflection and reflection on action, after it’s happened. Then when you’re together, do reflection in action.

The more you practice reflection and experience, the more you grow, inward, and outward. Reflect both before and after a situation. 

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Useful links:

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* Boston University Active Listening

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Meet Billy Eldridge

Meet Billy, the resident beta male. For Billy, this is a place to hang out with other beta males and the people who love them. We’re redefining what beta males look like in the world. I have learned to embrace my best beta self, and I can help you to do the same. As a therapist, I understand the need to belong. You belong here. Join the REVOLUTION.

 

Meet Brandy Eldridge

Hello, Beta friends. I am an alpha personality who is embracing the beta way of life. I feel alive when connected with people, whether that is listening to their stories or learning about their passions. Forget small talk, let’s go deep together. Come to the table and let’s have some life-changing conversations.

 

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