What percentage of your communication with your children is "actual" (our normal pattern of communication) compared to the percentage which is "ideal" (according to God's standard)? 

Actual = focus is on communicating rules, correction, discipline

Ideal = all of the above + Rebuke, entreaty, encouragement, teaching, warning, instruction, and prayer.

Key passages: Deut. 6:7-13, 1 Cor. 13:4-7, Eph. 4:29