The rules you set for your first child worked like a charm. But when child number two has reached adolescence… and nothing’s working at all. What’s gone wrong?

No two people are the same. Each person has his or her own likes, dislikes, learning styles and development levels. So every teen should be considered individually when it comes to making rules. And whatever their needs, remind your teen that rules are all about shaping their character.

As Chuck Swindoll said recently, “Kids long to know how [rules] are going to benefit them … rather than why they’re important to you.”

I have complete confidence that you can establish a working system of rules and consequences appropriate for your household. Just keep your teen in focus … and always be ready to adapt to their unique set of needs.

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