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Why Blood Testing Got My Attention

One of the biggest shifts for me was moving from “How do I feel?” to “What can I actually measure?”

My first blood test showed an omega-6:omega-3 ratio of approximately 34:1. After following the nutritional approach discussed in my ebook, I retested at approximately 4:1, and a later test was closer to 3:1.

Those are my personal test results. They do not establish that changing my fatty-acid profile caused changes in my focus, energy, or brain fog.

But they gave me something I had never had before:

A baseline. A change I could measure. And a reason to keep investigating.

Something worth thinking about

You can feel tired.

You can experience brain fog.

You can struggle to concentrate.

You can assume it's ADHD.

But you cannot feel your blood fatty-acid levels.

That's one reason testing became so interesting to me.

Rather than asking only:

“How do I feel?”

I started asking:

“What does the data say?”

The Research Behind the Conversation

1. More Than 590,000 Blood Samples

A 2025 peer-reviewed study published in Lipids in Health and Disease analyzed more than 590,000 whole-blood dried blood spot samples from around the world.

The researchers reported substantial geographic variation and widespread suboptimal omega-3 status. Importantly for this episode, the researchers wrote:

of fatty-acid status and balance. 

Read the 2025 dried-blood-spot study

Why I included it: This supports one of the central ideas behind this episode:

Stop guessing. Start measuring.

It does not establish that a particular omega-6:3 ratio causes ADHD symptoms.

2. Omega-3 Blood Levels and ADHD

A 2014 meta-analysis examined nine studies involving 586 participants and found lower overall blood omega-3 levels in people with ADHD compared with controls. Its supplementation analysis included 16 studies and found modest symptom effects, though the evidence was primarily in children. 

Read the ADHD and omega-3 blood-level meta-analysis on PubMed

Another meta-analysis specifically examining omega-6:omega-3 ratios reported that children and youth with ADHD had higher blood n-6:n-3 and AA/EPA ratios than controls. 

Read the omega-6:omega-3 ratio and ADHD meta-analysis

Important: Association doesn't mean causation. These studies don't show that an omega imbalance causes ADHD.

3. What About Adults With ADHD?

This one caught my attention because I was diagnosed as an adult.

A systematic review and meta-analysis examining biochemical research in adults with ADHD found lower serum DHA—the omega-3 fatty acid docosahexaenoic acid—in adults with ADHD compared with controls. Other fatty acids examined, including EPA and arachidonic acid, were not significantly different. 

Read the adult ADHD systematic review on PubMed

Again, this shows an association, not proof that low DHA causes ADHD.

4. Does Taking Omega-3 Improve ADHD?

This is where the science gets interesting—and complicated.

A 2023 meta-analysis combined 22 randomized controlled trials involving 1,789 participants.

Overall, omega-3 supplementation did not significantly improve core ADHD symptoms compared with placebo.

However, when researchers separately analyzed studies lasting four months or longer, that subgroup showed statistically significant improvement. The researchers cautioned that the subgroup evidence had limitations. 

Read the 2023 randomized-trial meta-analysis on PubMed

Why include a study that didn't find an overall benefit?

Because I'm not interested in proving something I already believe.

I'm interested in investigating what's actually true.

5. Omega-6:Omega-3 Balance and Inflammation

A systematic review and meta-analysis of 31 randomized controlled trials investigated lower-ratio omega-6/omega-3 interventions.

Researchers found significant reductions in two inflammatory markers—TNF-alpha and IL-6—but did not find a significant reduction in CRP. 

Read the inflammation meta-analysis on PubMed

More recent research continues to show that this subject is complicated. A 2026 review of 96 clinical trials found EPA+DHA supplementation increased blood EPA+DHA and reported reductions in several inflammatory markers, particularly among participants with underlying health conditions. 

Read the 2026 EPA/DHA systematic review on PubMed

This does not mean that a high omega-6:3 ratio automatically means someone is “inflamed.”

The Question I Want You to Leave With

What have you been blaming on your ADHD without actually investigating it?

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A mother watched her child get treated like a behavior problem, fought to understand what was actually happening, and eventually discovered that some of the very traits causing him problems were connected to remarkable abilities.

• When ADHD behavior is mistaken for bad behavior: Michelle describes her son’s experience beginning in kindergarten, including being disciplined and treated differently because his behavior didn’t fit classroom expectations.
• A mother becoming her child’s advocate: From requesting a different kindergarten teacher to challenging educators who weren’t following his 504 plan, Michelle explains why she refused to let the school define her son by his behavior.
• Their family’s experience with ADHD medication: Michelle discusses initially seeing improvement, subsequent dosage increases, and eventually deciding to discontinue medication after feeling that her energetic, curious son had become a “zombie.”
• Finding structure without crushing curiosity: Michelle explains how she used routines, stayed beside her children during difficult schoolwork, supported their interests, and learned that her children needed different approaches rather than simply more discipline.
• Seeing the abilities hiding behind the ADHD struggles: From unusually advanced language skills to musical talent that eventually took her children to Carnegie Hall, Michelle describes the intelligence, creativity, rapid connections, and hyperfocus she believes are too often overlooked.

3 Key Takeaways

1. Behavior is information.
A child who can’t sit still, repeatedly loses focus, or reacts differently isn’t automatically choosing to be difficult. Michelle’s story shows why understanding what’s driving a behavior can matter more than simply correcting it.

2. Accommodation and advocacy can change a child’s experience.
Michelle didn’t assume that every problem belonged to her son. She questioned whether his environment, teachers, expectations, and accommodations were actually working for him.

3. ADHD challenges and ADHD strengths can exist at the same time.
The same children who struggled with conventional school expectations demonstrated extraordinary abilities in other areas. The episode makes a strong case for investigating the whole person, rather than defining someone by the areas where they struggle.

“ADHD is not the end of the world. It’s actually the beginning of a new world.”
— Michelle Hoke

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• The hidden problem of too many possibilities — how an ADHD brain can see potential everywhere, and why every opportunity doesn’t deserve your attention.
• The Four-Quadrant System — filtering decisions through four questions: How do I feel about it? What do I think about it? Does it match what I believe? Does it move me toward my ultimate goal?
• Excitement versus evidence — why something feeling exciting isn’t enough, and how to investigate the cost, commitment, risk, and potential return before saying yes.
• Why four yeses still don’t mean yes — learning to limit your major priorities and recognizing that adding something new may require removing something else.
• Following the evidence beyond ADHD — how the same investigative mindset led to new questions about brain fog, exhaustion, inconsistent focus, blood work, inflammation, and other factors that may contribute to symptoms.

3 Key Takeaways

1. Every yes has a cost.
Time, energy, attention, and focus are limited resources. Choosing one opportunity automatically means giving less of yourself to something else.

2. Good distractions may be harder to recognize than bad ideas.
Something can feel right, make logical sense, align with your values—and still not belong in your life right now if it doesn’t move you toward your primary goal.

3. An answer shouldn’t end the investigation.
An ADHD diagnosis can explain important parts of someone’s experience without necessarily explaining every symptom. Your transition into blood work and inflammation reinforces the idea of continuing to ask questions and look for evidence rather than making assumptions.

“I’m not interested in building a successful life that requires me to become someone I don’t respect.”

-Chris Steindorf

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• How childhood ADHD experiences can become lifelong beliefs — DaLynn shares how an early school experience contributed to the belief that she was “dumb,” and how she eventually traced that identity back to its origin and began changing it. 
• Why structure creates freedom for the ADHD brain — From raising seven children to managing her own ADHD, DaLynn explains how schedules and predictability helped move her from constant chaos and fight-or-flight toward greater peace of mind. 
• Identifying and transforming limiting beliefs — DaLynn discusses how subconscious patterns can feel like permanent parts of our personality when they're actually learned responses—and why awareness is the first step toward changing them. 
• The connection between shame, self-talk, and identity — Chris and DaLynn explore the power of “I am” statements, the damage caused by repeatedly labeling ourselves negatively, and how compassionate self-talk can begin changing the internal narrative. 
• Practical tools for calming an overwhelmed ADHD mind — DaLynn shares strategies including routines, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, breath awareness, and using the five senses to get out of the mental “hamster wheel” and back into the present moment. 

3 Key Takeaways

1. A struggle can become a belief, and a belief can become an identity.
One of the most important distinctions in the episode is that something you learned to believe about yourself—even decades ago—doesn't necessarily describe who you actually are. DaLynn describes realizing that the belief “I was dumb” was connected to an early experience rather than objective evidence about her ability. 

2. You can't change a pattern you haven't learned to recognize.
DaLynn describes limiting beliefs as reactions that can become so automatic they feel like personality. Her message is that awareness gives you back choice: notice what repeatedly triggers you, identify the belief underneath it, and then begin working on that belief rather than simply fighting the behavior it produces. 

3. Working with an ADHD brain is more effective than constantly fighting it.
Structure, mindfulness, routines, and intentionally slowing down aren't about forcing an ADHD brain to become neurotypical. They're tools for creating an environment where the person can function with greater calm, focus, and control. DaLynn describes structure specifically as giving her back “peace of mind.”

 “Talk to yourself like you would someone you love.” 

— DaLynn Moore 

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• Recognizing ADHD patterns without a formal diagnosis — Tami reflects on childhood activity, being known for talking too much, a mind that rarely shuts off, insomnia, hyper-focus, keeping countless computer tabs open, and recognizing similar patterns throughout her family.
• When adversity forces the brain into survival mode — Tami shares the deeply personal story of navigating more than 100 family-court hearings, losing access to her children, financial and emotional upheaval, and trying to function while her mind was racing under enormous stress.
• Finding peace when you can’t control the outcome — One of the episode’s strongest moments comes when Tami describes reaching the end of herself outside the courthouse and surrendering the situation to God. She explains how peace didn’t make the circumstances disappear—it allowed her to take the next step without falling apart.
• Turning hyperfocus and resilience into strengths — Instead of viewing every ADHD-like characteristic as a weakness, Tami discusses her ability to intensely focus on what matters, manage multiple responsibilities, pivot quickly, solve problems, and continually find another route forward.
• Turning lived experience into purpose — Tami explains how her experiences eventually became the foundation for the Legal System Warrior and her Warrior Success System—helping people facing legal battles and other high-adversity situations develop the internal resilience, clarity, financial awareness, and practical tools to move forward.

3 Key Takeaways

1. The same mind that can feel chaotic can become incredibly powerful when it has direction.
Tami’s story repeatedly shows the other side of traits commonly associated with ADHD: rapid thinking can become problem-solving, hyperfocus can become persistence, and constantly looking for another possibility can become adaptability.

2. Resilience isn’t pretending something doesn’t hurt. It’s developing the ability to keep moving while it does.
Tami doesn’t describe peace as everything suddenly becoming okay. She describes reaching a place where the circumstances were still terrible, but she could finally ask: Where do I go? What do I do? What’s the next step?

3. Your hardest experiences can become part of what qualifies you to serve someone else.
Near the end, Tami makes an important distinction: she isn’t teaching adversity from a textbook. She’s teaching from lived experience. Her story went from something she survived to something she can now use to help another person navigate their own crisis.

“I’m not just teaching you from a class. I’m teaching you from lived experience.”
— Tami Forster

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In Memory of Frederick Myron Smith

August 31, 2019 — Seven Years Later

“There is a point past the pain, gentlemen.”

Those were the words of one of my best friends, Frederick Myron Smith, while we trained together.

At the time, it sounded like something Myron would say to push us through another set in the gym. But looking back, I realize Myron wasn’t just teaching us how to lift weights. He was teaching us how to live.

Myron believed life could be unfair. It could be hard. It could hurt. But when you were in the gym and willing to push yourself beyond the point where your body told you to quit, you were practicing something much bigger than working out. You were learning how to keep going when life became painful.

Another phrase Myron believed deeply was:

“Iron sharpens iron.”

For Myron, that meant surrounding yourself with people who challenged you, strengthened you, and helped you become a better man. Around Chris, Dan, and me, it became something we lived. It was about mutual growth, faith, fellowship, accountability, and making each other better.

From the time we met Myron in 2015 until we lost him in 2019, our close group of friends became family. And that family included Myron’s wife, his two children, and his mother.

Myron’s entire life was a story of overcoming the odds.

He spent ten years in prison after taking the fall for a close friend he believed couldn’t handle the time. His original sentence was twenty years. While incarcerated, Myron studied law and ultimately earned his release after ten.

But Myron didn’t allow those years to define the rest of his life.

He attended Savannah State College and later graduated with honors from Rutgers University, finishing at the top of his class and delivering the commencement speech.

Think about that journey for a moment.

From a prison cell to standing in front of his graduating class giving the commencement address.

That was Myron.

Eventually, he accepted a job as an engineer in La Crosse, Wisconsin. And that’s how we were lucky enough to meet him.

Myron was stubborn. He was a “I’ll do it myself” kind of guy. I remember watching him in the gym when we first met, lifting some seriously heavy weight without a spotter—and nearly dropping it on his head.

Finally, I walked over and said, “Hey man, I can spot you.”

He was a little rough around the edges at first. But once we got to know each other, something changed.

We became brothers.

Myron and I worked out four times a week. We played basketball at 5:00 in the morning. We went to church together.

It became seven days a week of dedication, friendship, faith, and fellowship.

Iron sharpening iron.

Then came August 31, 2019.

Myron was murdered while trying to help his mother have a safe environment.

Seven years later, writing those words still hurts.

Our close group of friends flew to Savannah, Georgia, to pay our respects and say goodbye to our brother.

More than 400 people filled the church for Myron’s funeral. Our small group from Wisconsin stood out, but none of that mattered. We were simply there as Myron’s brothers, surrounded by hundreds of other people whose lives he had touched.

I was numb. So were the rest of us. There was so much pain that day that it was difficult to fully comprehend everything happening around us.

Then, unexpectedly, the pastor called us forward during the service and asked us to give Myron’s testimony.

My brother Chris stood before the church and gave a beautiful testimony about our dear friend.

I hate public speaking. Every part of me wanted to stay in that seat.

Then I looked toward the front row.

I saw Myron’s mother, Mrs. Smith, and Angel. I saw the devastation on their faces.

And I knew it had to be done.

Then Myron’s words came back to me:

“There is a point past the pain, gentlemen.”

So I stood up.

And I told them about our Myron.

I told them about the man we knew in Wisconsin. The man who worked. The man who studied. The man who prayed. The man who pushed us. The man who challenged us to become better men. The man who became our brother.

It wasn’t until much later that I fully understood what happened inside that church that day.

People in Georgia knew Myron through one chapter of his life. We had been blessed to know the man he became.

We were able to stand before his family, his friends, and his community and tell them the truth about who Myron was to us.

And in that moment, something changed.

An invisible barrier came down.

We weren’t Black or white. We weren’t people from Georgia or Wisconsin.

We were simply people who loved Myron Smith.

Even in death, Myron was still bringing people together.

He was still making a difference.

After Myron passed, Mrs. Smith would call me about once a month. I’ll never forget what she told me:

“Jason, what you all did by coming down to Georgia and giving my son’s testimony was the icing on the cake. It needed to happen. You all meant so much to my son, and he meant so much to all of you.”

She was right.

He did.

And he still does.

My final words that day, standing in front of my dear friend Myron, his family, and hundreds of people who loved him, came straight from my heart:

“Myron, you always said there was a point past the pain. But my friend, this is going to be hard for me to get past.”

Seven years have passed.

I’ve learned that maybe getting past the pain doesn’t mean leaving it behind. Maybe it means carrying forward what the person taught you.

The lessons.

The faith.

The fellowship.

The strength.

The love.

And the responsibility to sharpen the people around you just as they sharpened you.

Myron’s life was bigger than the way it ended.

His story was about redemption. Perseverance. Faith. Friendship. Family. And refusing to allow your past—or your pain—to determine your future.

Seven years later, I still hear his voice when life gets difficult:

“There is a point past the pain, gentlemen.”

I understand those words differently now.

Keep pushing.
Keep believing.
Keep helping the people around you become better.
And when life hurts more than you think you can handle, keep going.

Iron sharpens iron.

Rest easy, my brother.

Frederick Myron Smith
Forever loved. Forever remembered.
And still sharpening iron.

There's a Point Past the Pain

-Frederick Myron Smith ~aka Brother Pain

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In this episode of ADHD Case Files, Chris Steindorf sits down with Chris Stewart for a candid conversation about ADHD, identity, self-understanding, and what happens when the labels we carry for years don't tell the whole story.

Chris Stewart brings his own experiences and perspective into the conversation, offering an honest look at how ADHD can affect far more than attention or productivity. Together, Chris and Chris explore the impact of living without answers, the beliefs we develop about ourselves, and what can happen when we finally begin examining those beliefs instead of simply accepting them.

• Chris Stewart’s experience with ADHD and understanding himself differently
  Chris shares his perspective on recognizing ADHD-related patterns and how gaining greater understanding can change the way someone interprets their past.
• The labels we carry long before we understand the reason behind our struggles
  Chris discusses the impact of feeling misunderstood and how repeated experiences can gradually become beliefs about intelligence, capability, and personal worth.
• How ADHD reaches beyond focus and attention
  The conversation explores how ADHD can influence relationships, emotions, confidence, decision-making, work, and the way a person sees themselves.
• Moving from explanation to personal responsibility
  Chris and Chris discuss an important distinction: understanding ADHD isn't about creating an excuse for the past. It's about gaining information that allows you to make different choices in the future.
• Reexamining your story after discovering new evidence
  Chris Stewart’s contribution reinforces one of the central ideas behind ADHD Case Files: sometimes you have to go back and reconsider the conclusions you made about yourself before you had all the evidence.

3 Key Takeaways

1. Understanding ADHD can change the meaning you assigned to your past.
   The events don't change, but the interpretation can. Behaviors once viewed as personal failures may look very different when you finally understand what was happening underneath them.
2. Self-awareness creates an opportunity—but what you do with it still matters.
   A diagnosis or realization can provide answers, but growth begins when those answers are turned into intentional action.
3. You may need to question conclusions you've believed about yourself for years.
   Chris Stewart's story demonstrates why discovering ADHD isn't simply about receiving a label. It can become an opportunity to investigate your identity with better information.

 “Sometimes the hardest thing isn't finding out you have ADHD. It's realizing how long you've been judging yourself without knowing the whole story.” 

-Chris Stewart

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A son’s lifelong struggle to understand his father — The episode begins with the emotional absence you experienced and the childhood conclusion that followed: “I will not become my father.” 

How your ADHD diagnosis changed the evidence — Being diagnosed at 46 caused you to investigate not only yourself, but your father’s history, trauma, behavior, and what you believe was his undiagnosed ADHD. 

The two conversations at your father’s deathbed — First, the hurt teenager finally confronts his father. Then you return as the grown man who can see both what his father failed to give you and what your father himself never received. 

Breaking generational patterns instead of inheriting them — Your promise that “when you die, poverty dies with you” expands beyond money into identity, shame, silence, emotional disconnection, and generations of people believing they are defective. 

Why ADHD Case Files is dedicated to your father — His unopened case becomes part of the mission: investigate behavior rather than simply judge it, give people language for what they're experiencing, and help others understand themselves while there is still time. 

3 Key Takeaways

1. Understanding someone doesn't excuse what they did—it changes how you interpret the evidence.
One of the strongest ideas in the episode is your shift from asking “Why wouldn't you?” to “What if he didn't know how?” You preserve accountability while making room for understanding. 

2. Patterns that aren't investigated can become identities that get passed down.
Pain, shame, silence, beliefs, and coping behaviors can travel through generations until somebody becomes willing to examine them. Your message is that inheritance doesn't have to determine continuation: “It can change with you.” 

3. Your father's closed case became part of the purpose behind yours.
You can't give your father the understanding he never received, but you can use what his life taught you to help another father, son, daughter, or late-diagnosed adult understand themselves before their own case closes. 

“Patterns that aren't investigated get inherited. Pain that isn't understood gets transferred. Beliefs that aren't questioned become identity.”

-Chris Steindorf

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• Rewriting 46 years of a false identity — How being diagnosed with ADHD forced you to question the belief that you were dumb, lazy, incapable, or somehow less than everyone else.
• Investigating the voice inside your own head — Recognizing that years of mistakes, forgotten appointments, unfinished projects, and struggles had become “evidence” for a verdict that was never actually true. 
• Learning who you are after a late ADHD diagnosis — Your deep dive into ADHD, psychology, CBT, NLP, trauma, habits, brain function, performance, and learning—not simply to understand ADHD, but to finally understand yourself. 
• Discovering your value was there all along — Leaving a 19-year career and realizing that while you questioned your own worth, the people around you already recognized your ability to solve difficult problems quickly and accurately. 
• Moving from masking to investigation — Why ADHD Case Files exists: to challenge assumptions about ADHD, imposter syndrome, masking, biology, nutrition, psychology, and identity by following the evidence instead of accepting old labels. 

1. A diagnosis can explain your past without defining your future.
   Understanding ADHD can give new context to decades of struggles, but the more important question becomes: “What do I do now?”
2. The story you've been telling yourself may be based on incomplete evidence.
   When you repeatedly focus on mistakes and shortcomings, you can miss the abilities and strengths that other people have seen in you for years. 
3. Understanding yourself requires investigation, not judgment.
   ADHD is only one piece of the case. Identity, learned beliefs, masking, environment, psychology, biology, and other factors deserve to be examined before reaching a verdict about who you are. 

“I was reading because… I was trying to meet myself… for the very first time.”

-Chris Steindorf

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The Mental Health Crisis That Changed Everything — The emotional collapse that ultimately led to a three-day inpatient stay and the decision to seek help. 

How Lifelong Coping Patterns Affected My Relationships — How low self-worth, freezing under emotional pressure, and difficulty communicating followed from childhood into marriage and adulthood. 

The Nurse Who Helped Me Start Asking Different Questions — Meeting Lilly and experiencing what happened when someone finally gave me the time, space, and questions needed to examine what was happening internally. 

Discovering ADHD Behind My Communication Struggles — Realizing that what looked like not listening, avoidance, or shutting down could actually be difficulty processing communication in real time. 

The Diagnosis That Opened the Case — Receiving an ADHD diagnosis and realizing it wasn't the end of the investigation—it was the first real clue toward understanding decades of unexplained struggles

3 Key Takeaways

1. A behavior and the reason behind that behavior are not necessarily the same thing.
What appeared externally as not listening, not caring, or avoiding communication felt internally like desperately trying to process and hold onto information. Understanding the mechanism doesn't erase responsibility—but it gives you somewhere productive to look. 

2. Sometimes the breakthrough begins when someone gives you enough room to investigate.
Lilly didn't diagnose ADHD. She listened, asked questions, provided resources, and created enough space for the clues to start becoming visible. 

3. A diagnosis can be an explanation without becoming the final answer.
The ADHD diagnosis changed the meaning of decades of struggles, but it didn't explain everything Chris was experiencing. Instead of closing the case, the diagnosis became the first real clue. 

“I thought getting diagnosed was the end of the investigation. I had no idea… it was only the first real clue.”

-Chris Steindorf

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