🎧 Episode 10!

In a very special episode of The NeuroDADverse, Ben and Dan welcome their first guest: Ben’s wife, Laura, who opens up for the first time about her brand new ADHD diagnosis at 44.

This candid conversation unpacks Laura’s experience of going through the assessment process, the emotional weight of late diagnosis, and the joyful, if surprising, validation that followed.

Elsewhere, it’s a week of high emotions, meltdowns, clothes-related identity struggles, and bath time tactics. From family beach days and bowling with noise-cancelling headphones, to hyper-focused DIY and parenting wins in disguise, this episode is raw, funny, and incredibly relatable.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “just about coping” while also quietly smashing it, this one’s for you.

💬 Topics This Episode

• Laura’s new ADHD diagnosis at 44, vindication, imposter syndrome & joy

• Gendered ADHD presentation & overlooked symptoms

• The challenge of the ADHD online assessment process

• Frankie’s beach meltdown & sensory overload

• Oscar’s outfit dilemmas & gender expression

• Bath time strategies: coaching vs independence

• Hyperfocus, teamwork & DIY kitchen wins

00:00 – Welcome to Episode 10 & our first guest!

01:30 – Week in 3 Words: Surprising, Vindicating, Joyful

03:30 – Anniversary meals, kitchen painting & medical news

04:50 – Laura joins the podcast to share her story

05:40 – ADHD diagnosis confirmed after final assessment

07:00 – Why the process felt emotional & validating

08:00 – Imposter syndrome and “did I fake this?” feelings

09:00 – Childhood examples, ambition, and astronauts

11:00 – Navigating identity & shame around late diagnosis

12:30 – Friendship styles & feeling like an outsider

14:30 – Gendered social connection & emotional coping

16:00 – Processing it all – joy, grief & overwhelm

17:00 – Challenges with the online ADHD assessment

19:00 – Bath time score reveal – Laura’s rating vs Ben’s!

22:00 – How sensory differences shape family routines

25:00 – Ben & Dan debrief: Laura’s journey and what’s next

27:30 – Ben’s parenting win: Oscar’s emotional resilience

30:00 – Frankie’s sensory meltdown at the beach

33:00 – Communication and safe spaces in tough moments

35:00 – Comparing experiences with Oscar & Frankie

38:00 – Planning family outings: expectations vs reality

41:00 – Clothing, confidence & gender identity

44:00 – Bowling alley challenge turned quiet win

46:00 – The restaurant social story workaround

49:00 – Catching wins in the chaos of parenting

51:30 – Listener feedback & Frankie’s first words revisited

53:00 – Looking ahead: GCSE results, weddings & inflatable lakes

56:00 – Wrestling plans & being in two places at once

58:00 – Kitchen transformation: DIY, teamwork & hyperfocus

1:00:00 – Bath time scoring face-off: independence vs task-focused

1:03:00 – Final scores, Lego gifts & anniversary fails

1:06:00 – ADHD teamwork & the joy of colourblind decorating

1:08:00 – Outro: wins, challenges, and parenting in technicolour

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