🎧 Unapologetically Imperfect

S2, Ep 8 – Functioning-ish: Out of Sight, Out of Mind

Object permanence isn’t just for babies. In ADHD brains, it messes with your memory, your relationships, and your ability to act on what you care about.

You bought the birthday card. You meant to text back. You love them. And still—it doesn’t happen.

In this episode, Jen dives deep into the ADHD phenomenon of object permanence—why people, tasks, and even your most important relationships fall off your mental radar the second they’re not in front of you. This isn’t flakiness. It’s executive dysfunction.

This episode gives you language, tools, and strategies to name what’s happening and start building real bridges back to the people you love—even when your brain drops the thread.

🔍 Inside this episode:

• What object permanence actually means in an ADHD brain
• Why your brain forgets people, messages, and plans—without meaning to
• How executive dysfunction, emotional queuing, and working memory all collide
• The guilt spiral: how forgetting leads to shame, which leads to shutdown
• Real stories (like Jen’s lost friendship with “Bill”) that show what this looks like in life
• How to repair when you’ve disappeared—and how to explain it without shame

🧠 ADHD-Smart Strategies Included:

• Relational Reminders – recurring name-based nudges tied to routines
• Visible Love Lists – post-its, pics, or digital cues to reconnect intentionally
• Message Hacks – low-pressure ways to stay connected when your brain is maxed
• Object Anchors – physical prompts that bridge thought to action
• Emotional Cueing – how to pair emotion + reminders so your brain notices
• Scripts to Explain It – how to share the real story behind the silence

💥 Why This Matters:

This isn’t just about memory. It’s about preserving connection in a brain that doesn’t naturally do it. If your friendships live in your heart but not your text thread, if you carry guilt about the people you love but haven’t reached out to—this episode will help you name it, normalize it, and start rebuilding with systems that support how your brain actually works.

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🔗 Links + Resources:

• Join the Balance Life Lab – low-cost, low-pressure community for women with ADHD, perimenopause, and real-life chaos
• Morning Reclaim – build a flexible morning rhythm that works
• Follow Jen on Facebook for more executive function + hormone-fueled truth bombs

💬 Share the Love:

This episode is for the friend who disappears for weeks and comes back with love and guilt in equal measure.

If it helped you name a silent struggle, share it. Tag @jenleemorse.

Keep being unapologetically imperfect.

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