On this special Juneteenth weekend episode of All Rights Reserved, host Yolanda Taylor (the people's attorney) strips away the fluff. She is joined by licensed psychotherapist, executive coach, and long-time friend Debra Loban of Raleigh, NC. Drawing from over two decades of mental health experience at Duke University, Debra breaks down the core concepts of her powerful new book, The Six Laws of Self-Care: How to Cultivate the Mindset of Taking Care of Yourself.

Later in the hour, Yolanda bridges the gap between personal well-being and community action, pivoting from self-care to civic care. They unpack a major election bill moving through the North Carolina General Assembly and reveal why protecting your peace is directly tied to protecting your power at the ballot box.

Inside the Conversation:

• The Post-COVID Mirror: Why the pandemic stripped away our daily distractions and forced us to confront the "elephant in the room"—leaving many adults struggling with an unprecedented drop in self-esteem.
• Self-Confidence vs. Self-Worth: Debra explains why you can be a highly confident professional in the courtroom or the office, yet still grapple with deeply low self-worth when the lights go out and the titles are stripped away.
• The "Mistake" Trap: Shifting from self-condemnation to accountability. Learn why reframing "mistakes" as conscious choices and life experiences is the first step toward trusting your own judgment.
• The Symptom of Social Media Trolling: Why anger, bitterness, and body-shaming others online are the ultimate red flags of a low self-worth ecosystem.
• Fear of Backlash: A hard look at why people actively resist positive change out of fear. Debra shares anonymous clinical insights into why some individuals would rather shrink back into toxic environments or unhappy marriages than face the anxiety of setting a boundary.

The Playbook on Boundaries:"When you say 'No' and set a limit, don't expect people to be happy about it. No one is okay when you put a boundary up because they liked it when they were getting their way. What someone else feels about your choices to care for yourself is their business—stay in your lane." — Debra Loban

• Is Self-Care Selfish? Why prioritizing your mind and emotions isn't a luxury—it's a biological and psychological necessity that no one else can do for you.
• The Daily Practice: How to step away from "trappings" and build a cumulative, daily wellness practice that completely prevents burnout before it starts.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

• The Book: The Six Laws of Self-Care: How to Cultivate the Mindset of Taking Care of Yourself by Debra Loban. Available now on Amazon.
• Civic Action Check: Stay informed on the latest voter impact legislation moving through the North Carolina General Assembly. Remember: if you don't make decisions for your community, someone else will.

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