We give power to the difficult things in our lives by keeping them a secret and allowing shame to suffocate our truth. We keep ourselves in life or death situations with our silence. We must save our own lives.

Tell your truth and Turn away. Take away the secret’s power.

Maybe you don't have a secret but can be that safe person for someone to tell their secret shame to. If they do: Lean in. Listen. Love. Period. 

We have to save our own lives. 

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Have you ever found yourself living a life that looks completely different than, not only the one you had planned, but the one you'd been very happily living? For many of us, illness, trauma, death of a loved one, divorce, job loss, fill in the blank, can leave us reeling, feeling lost, and untethered. Join me in hearing from Pat Henneberry, author of My Soul Showed Up: Finding Hope and Resilience against all odds, as she shares how showing up has made all the difference as she recovers from eight different surgeries over a six-year span. 

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Lavender Finch is just a girl on the edge of the rest of her life when trauma shows up by the name of Travis. But it isn’t the trauma that almost ruins Lavender, it’s the shame she swallows when she keeps it a secret that threatens to choke the life out of her. 

Loving Lavender Finch is a coming-of-age-tale that explores the intricate dance between truth and vulnerability through the eyes of a seventeen-year-old girl struggling to find herself amidst trauma, endured and inherited. Throughout this story, readers are invited to explore the complexities of self-identity and the courage it takes to share the deepest parts of our soul with another. 

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Watching someone you love burn out or fade away is hard. It is not for the faint of heart and yet, we will all do it at some point. It is inevitable. I hope this episode will move you as much as it did me. Thanks for listening. 

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It was Victor Hugo who said something like, "There's nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come," and in small town Camden, NY, the simple idea that Amy Christmas brought to life has "blown up" in ways she never imagined. Her idea, centered on Holiday-themed inflatables, has made neighbors out of strangers, turned sadness into smiles, and provided a way for her community to connect in a powerful and poignant way. A great lesson for all of us this Holiday Season--after all, Connection is the antidote to all the human suffering we experience and witness in this life together. Connection is the Christmas Miracle We All Need!

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What does it take to change the world? Hope. 

Marvelous Ways International, a nonprofit organization founded by Mark and Christin Haywood, is on a mission to give hope, to invest hope, to inspire hope and to lift the lives of kids who come from very dangerous and impoverished communities in developing nations around the world.

They go where kids are in danger and address longstanding and complicated societal issues--which is no small task. MWI believes that we should not accept the current conditions that many young people face as "just the way it is," but instead, disrupt the cycle of poverty and violence that has become the norm. 

Borders exist to control us but shouldn't stop us from being connected or extending HOPE.

If you have the means, visit their website and give to this mission to change generations to come. Make way for Hope. 

www.marvelouswaysint.org

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Janet Jackson said it best in 1986 in her song, Control. I don't want to rule the world, I just wanna run my life. (It's on Spotify if you've never heard it.) 

Lately I've been feeling disenchanted, disappointed and disgusted with this world, the election process, all of it. Remembering a lesson I learned a long time ago about the Circle of Control helped me put it in perspective again. Listen in to find out about the four concentric circles that make up our life and how to make sense of it all, and most importantly, how to zero in on what YOU can control. 

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So much conversation about the candidates--what they've done or not done, what they believe or don't believe...While those things are important considerations, what we really should be talking about is whether or not the candidate is an authentic leader. Do they provide Vision, Unity, Inspiration and Strength? Listen in to share in this conversation.

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You know that feeling when you're at a wedding reception, the bar has been open for three rounds too long, and Uncle Jim or Aunt Tonya are out on the dance floor singing along to Celine Dion for the third time? You scan the room looking to see if anyone else is noticing what's happening? Is it you? Is it them? What is going on? I've been feeling like that a lot lately and rather than disengage, let's talk about it.

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Compassion is triggered when we encounter suffering. Also...it exists on a scale that ranges from sharing and witnessing that suffering first in our bodies, souls and minds, but then, for some it turns into taking action on an individual level or en masse. For some it becomes a burden, an obligation, a mission they take on. And for even fewer, it becomes something to solve permanently. 

But what happens when compassion is compromised in the process? It becomes cruel. Tune in to this episode as we break down compassion. 

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