In episode 20 the Altar'd Manhood guys have the privilege of sitting down with our first international guest, Christian Lenty. Christian hails from Thailand.Christian Lenty is the founder and director of The MST Project, a ministry that mentors men worldwide in pursuing greater sexual purity, spiritual wholeness, and Christlike maturity. The MST Project has four primary initiatives: On the Street, Pathway to Purity, Real Men Pursuing Purity, and Re:Start. On the Street is an outreach to foreign men who visit red-light districts, providing long-term mentorship and support for those men wanting to make changes. Pathway to Purity is for men in the church dealing with sexual addictions and struggles. Through 1-on-1 discipleship through their book, The Pursuit of Purity, men around the world have experienced freedom. Real Men Pursuing Purity seeks to inspire men to grow in greater Christlikeness in all areas of their lives. This is accomplished through quarterly online events and weekly connect groups with participants worldwide. And ReStart helps Christian workers involved in moral misconduct experience repentance, renewal, and restoration. Christian has lived in Thailand for 24 years and resides in Bangkok with his wife.

For episode #19, Altar'd Manhood had the privilege of sitting down with Bryan Scott Butler.Bryan is first and foremost a Christ follower. He is also a husband to his beautiful wife Carrie, of almost 18 years, and father to 4 amazing children, Bryan, Benjamin, Ashlynn and Adelynn. Bryan's story of redemption after being the victim of infidelity is a powerful reminder of how God restores. His submission through his pain and redemption shows how we can release control and trust God's plan even in the heart brake. Bryan's story of restoring his relationship with his earthly father is one that many men can relate to.Bryan is an ordained pastor who ministers to Law Enforcement as a Law Enforcement Chaplain with the Pasco Sheriff's Office in Pasco County Florida for 15 years. He is also the Director of Concerts & Events for Radio Training Network. A radio broadcast ministry that owns The JOY FM as well as other radio brands in the Southeast United States. He has been with RTN for almost 28 years. Bryan has worked alongside some of Christian Music's biggest artist on the biggest platforms. Bryan is passionate about being authentic in ones daily walk with Christ, understanding, as a born again believer, we are adopted into sonship with God the Father through the work of Jesus Christ (YESHUA) on the cross. He believes the Holy Spirit comforts, guides and equips us for the battles we face, both physically and spiritually to bring glory to God.

Episode 18 is a sit down with Pastor Kevin Miller and the release of his new book, RUN! A Proven Battle Plan For Preventing And Defeating Sexual Sin.Kevin Miller is a pastor, author, and speaker, who is passionate about reaching people far from Christ and helping them discover His purpose for their lives. He spent years of his life addicted, isolated, and spiraling in shame due to sexual sin.Kevin has been a pastor for over twenty years, and has spent most of those years preaching weekly to large and small groups at churches, conferences, events, classes, and other gatherings. He is passionate about sharing the freedom he has found through faith in Christ and honesty with others. Kevin is the author of three books, Better Than Gold, Come Hell or High Water, and RUN! A Proven Battle Plan For Preventing And Defeating Sexual Sin.After almost a decade of being married to his wife, Jenn, he sought professional help to deal with the damage that pornography had caused in his life and relationships. Counseling led to vulnerability and honesty, which led to newfound freedom and hope he had never experienced.Kevin and his wife, Jenn, live in Tampa, Florida and have three children, Emery, Adalyn, and Haddon.Book mentioned: Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred StoekerPower Quote: "Sin is never victimless or anonymous." Purchase Kevin's book at:www.kevmill.com

Tim, Jerry and Ralph sit down with the owner of The Rebuilt Man, Frank Rich. He specializes in helping men recover from addiction, build personal fitness, and develop one on one coaching and training. In part two, we take a deeper dive into how the church should approach this subject, how to put controls in our lives and understand the root cause of the behavior. We explore what tools and how a man's identity is the driver behind our behavior. We explore how parents can prevent and work up stream to prepare their kids and prevent exposure. We hit on how America has a testosterone problem and a consumption problem with their men. Lastly, we focus on how the first step out of this problem is to find a trusted male friend to tell and expose it to. That is the beginning of the pathway to victory.Frank's goal today is to build strong men around the globe that can change the world through righteous strength that serves and protects others.Book Series Mentioned: God's Design for Sex by Carolyn NystromCheck out more on Frank Rich at:The Super Human Podcastwww.rebuiltrecovery.com

Tim, Jerry and Ralph sit down with the owner of The Rebuilt Man, Frank Rich. He specializes in helping men recover from addiction, build personal fitness, and develop one on one coaching and training. In part one of this sit down, Frank tells his story about his own struggles in overcoming addiction, living accordingly to what he thought success was and how men find true fulfillment and success today. Frank's goal today is to build strong men around the globe that can change the world through righteous strength that serves and protects others.

Tim, Ralph and Jerry discuss sex in the context of marriage and the cultural distortion that men have faced in our current day and age. They discuss sex in the different context of stage of life: single, married no kids, married with kids, married with an empty nest at home. The world tries to shame men who haven't handled sex God's way but God can always redeem any situation. Men, don't feel shame. Learn to repent and follow God in this area.Sex has the power to bring down kingdoms or the power to make rock solid world changing marriages. There is a reward for waiting until marriage for sex. The covenant or marriage is consummated during the first act of sex between a man and woman on their wedding night.Single men find community with other men to remain pure until marriage. The dynamic of sex changes when men operate in their true identity to serve and be selfless during sex with their wife. When this is done right, the sex gets better.Book reference: Kevin Leman - Sex Begins in the KitchenDon't weaponize sex. God has given it to you as a gift. When it is weaponized we give satan a foothold. Sex is a spiritual act that builds layers of intimacy in your marriage and strengthens it.Sex in marriage is an act of worship. Invite God into the bedroom.Don't neglect sex as empty nesters. It is a powerful way to connect. Communicate vulnerably.

The beginning of episode 14 has the cast of Altar'd Manhood address the first listener question or learning to process grief with our spouses.Creating space for emotional intimacy that can lead to physical intimacy. A man's drive for physical intimacy is often how he connects emotionally to his wife.Am I a safe place for my wife when she's emotional?Discover the art of listening to your wife and ask questions.True intimacy is walking along together with the wife you're leading. Your wife wants to run with you and join with you.Women are great communicators but the men are the initiators. Text your wife to check in. Bring her lunch at her job. Court her to create intimacy. What are you doing all day to cultivate intimacy.They discussed the man in a marriage where things are just ok in their marriage and how to improve it. We need community and accountability to improve our marriages. Not taking offense or rejection is important but difficult.Book reference: Love and Respect - Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Tim, Jerry and Ralph had the privilege of sitting down with Hall of Fame Coach Tony Dungy on the Altar'd Manhood Podcast.---------------------------------------------------------------------Tony Dungy, a former NFL defensive back, advanced through the coaching ranks following his playing career. He earned his first head coaching position in 1996 with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and over the next 13 seasons, that included seven years with the Indianapolis Colts, he racked up 148 total victories.Dungy’s career in coaching began in 1980 with the University of Minnesota before jumping back to the NFL with the Pittsburgh Steelers in 1981 where he rose to become the team’s defensive coordinator. He coached three years for the Kansas City Chiefs from 1989 to 1991 and then was named the defensive coordinator of the Minnesota Vikings from 1992 to 1995.Dungy took over a Buccaneers team in 1996 that had suffered 12 double-digit loss seasons in the previous 13 years before his arrival. The fortunes of the franchise quickly changed under his leadership. By his second season, the team finished 10-6 and earned a playoff berth. Two seasons later, in 1999, the Bucs posted an 11-5 record and clinched the franchise’s first divisional title since 1981. After six seasons in Tampa Bay, that included four trips to the playoffs, Dungy was relieved of his duties.Eight days after his dismissal by the Bucs, Dungy was hired by Indianapolis. Under his guidance, the Colts enjoyed success never experienced in the franchise’s history. During Dungy’s seven-year reign as Indy’s head coach, the Colts posted 12 or more wins in all of those seasons except his first when they finished 10-6. The team claimed five divisional titles and advanced to the playoffs every year of Dungy’s tenure as coach.In 2006, Dungy guided the Colts to an AFC South Division title and capped the season with a thrilling 38-34 win over their arch rival New England Patriots in the AFC championship game and a victory over the Chicago Bears in Super Bowl XLI. Dungy became the first African American head coach ever to win a Super Bowl.Dungy’s overall record as a NFL head coach was 148-79-0 and that includes a .668 winning percentage in the regular season (139-69-0).

In part 3 of the Intimacy Series, Tim, Jerry and Ralph talk the application of intimacy. They discuss the need for our wives to feel loved and secure. They discuss the practical steps behind creating intimacy in our marriages.Discussion centers around how our wives are unique and we can better serve them by learning what is important to them. Learn what is important to your wife and make it important to you. "What's important to her is important to me."How to manage culture creep is discussed.We have to stand in the gap for our wives and make them feel secure. Comparison will kill intimacy.Finding a mentor to fill your gaps in knowing how to be intimate with your wife, especially when you didn't have it modeled at home.Intimacy is prioritizing your family and being present at home. Participating in God's economy and prioritizing your life God's way creates intimacy at home. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is the cheat code for learning to be by intimate with your wife. See link for the Love Languages quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzesAsk good questions to connect with your wife. It will foster trust. Then listen well and apply.Find that win!

Tim, Ralph and Jerry discuss part two of intimacy by starting in the garden and having and understanding of God wanting a closeness and intimacy with us. Nothing can separate us from the love of God. Intimacy begins with resting in God. It's a position of our heart.God's desire from the beginning is to be with us. Intimacy with God gives a man power. That power gives a man the ability to fulfill his calling and destiny with God. A man develops intimacy with God through Bible reading, honesty, transparency, prayer, meditation, fellowship with other believers (especially men) and study.Our disciplines with God transition to intimacy with our wives, kids and key relationships.God always wants intimacy no matter how far you feel you are from Him. No one is too far from God.Being intimate with God is being intentional with your time. Knowing the role of your wife helps with the intimacy and how you as a husband lead her. Our wife's are to partner with us to increase our intimacy with God. There's a space to dwell only with you, your wife and God. It's a sacred space.Emotional intimacy happens at the soul level that increases your intimacy in your marriage. When we get our spiritual intimacy and emotional intimacy right in our marriages then our physical intimacy will be so much better.Harshness to your wife is and intimacy killer. Live with her in an understanding way.Scriptures mentioned: Psalm 51Colossians 3:19 "Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them."Book mention - Celebration of Discipline: Richard Foster