Your responses to the situations that call for inner security or insecurity show whether you are truly secure or insecure; but both security and insecurity are an inward fight.  

Take a real look at yourself.  Are you secure?  Insecure?  Paranoid?  Are you dealing with someone who is this way?  

 When relationships are overwhelmed with insecurity, unchecked this can lead to mental, emotional or physical abuse.  When people are dealing with insecurity it is because they don’t have a good grasp on who they are inside.  Some use “insecurity language” as a cover for their own evil and to make their partner feel bad about true red flags.