“What are some pointers you’d offer someone who feels unmet in their emotional needs due to their husband’s avoidant emotionally unavailable tendencies?”   “What do you do in between counseling sessions when something even more hurtful has just been revealed?”  “In an avoidant-insecure partnership, is compromising simply a reframe to keep the peace, and am I denying my need for a healthy, working relationship?” Our TRS Support Group is ripe with like-minded people doing their work, asking hard questions, practicing curiosity, taking accountability for how they show up, garnering compassion for their significant others, and offering moral support. Ellen and I regularly thumb through comments and answer questions here in our Ask Me Anything episodes over a cup of coffee.    Useful Links:   https://relationshipschool.com/rct/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com  

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IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:  To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self The true characteristics of a long-term partnership How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence  There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow. And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave: Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with. However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points. Timestamps:  1:47 - What are we getting into when we say yes to long-term relationships? 6:04 - Becoming the best version of yourself 9:49 - Annie's story 16:48 - Taking responsibility when we don't feel loved 21:35 - Getting out of your victimhood 30:34 - When to leave   Links:  Annie Lalla – Love Coach for Singles & Couples Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

When to Stay or Leave + True Love - Annie Lalla - 499

Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen. SHOWNOTES  What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [8:30] How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [10:35] What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [13:00] The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [15:00] How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [17:30] The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [19:30] What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [29:00] Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [30:00] What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [32:30] How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [34:00] The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [38:00]  Links:  My Relationship Coach (MRC) Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Addiction Expert, Speaker and Best-selling Author Dr. Gabor Maté (drgabormate.com) Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process.  Timestamps:  2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples   Links:  The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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Irka and Eugene join Jayson to talk non-monogamy. Is monogamy inherently restrictive? Do people in polyamorous relationships have boundaries? Is non-hierarchical polyamory possible? What role does sexual exploration play in a polyamorous relationship? Is non-monogamy for you? Whether you’re monogamous or not, you’ll find plenty of wisdom in this insightful conversation. Timestamps:  8:45 - Definitions and terms 11:40 - Boundaries 19:52 - Thirds 34:09 - Is monogamy inherently restrictive? 37:39 - Sexual exploration 42:27 - Is non-monogamy for you? 51:03 - Communication 53:51 - Advice for high school kids 57:45 - Links 59:15 - Action step  Links:  Covalent Life Ethical Monogamy My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook   

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In this podcast, I interview Satyen and Suzanne, both long-time students of David Deida. These two are super honest, loving individuals, and wow have they been through a lot! There share some very vulnerable details about how they navigated religion, affairs, and fighting. They give you concrete practical tools you can try right now with your partner. These guys live it! SHOWNOTES  How did Satyen and Suzanne start caring about relationships? [4:27] Why did Satyen resist marriage? [7:00] What ingredient was the “it” factor for Suzanne’s attraction to Satyen? [7:44] What role did religion play in their relationship? [10:42] How did fighting about food bring them closer? [12:15] What impact did David Deida have on their connection? [14:28] How did they create a new template for their relationship? [16:06] The most challenging period of their relationship [18:02] One really important practice to heal from infidelity [20:15] Satyen and Suzanne demonstrate a powerful tool to express emotional pain to your partner [26:30] The often-missed key to understanding your partner [32:43] What is PCP and ISE and how do they create connection and turn-on? [34:50]  Links:  FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Enroll in Relationship Mastery U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 http://warriorsage.com http://ignitepassionnow.tv http://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com http://dyad.org Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok      Satyen and Suzanne are the authorities on relationship – passionately intwined for twenty-seven years and sought after by people over the the world for their powerful and cutting edge trainings. With over two decades of study, teaching and facilitation in this area, they have taught tens of thousands of singles and couples the art of creating passionate, juicy intimacy that lasts a lifetime. A living demonstration of a couple who are continually re-igniting their spark, passion and love, Satyen and Suzanne practically distill what for many can be a confusing, frustrating and even painful topic down to its very workable, irresistible essence. Whether on radio, tv or in auditoriums of thousands, their style is provocative, inspiring, and above all, full of practical wisdom. They have a unique gift for hearing what lies beneath your questions, and giving you answers that convey deep truths with incredible heart. Never shy of controversy, they are willing to take conventional wisdom to task where it falls short in order to help you learn and live the most effective relationship skills. Satyen and Suzanne are committed to, and superlatively skilled at, saying the things that no one else says, going places that no one else goes — so that you can have the hot, deep, loving, passionate relationship that you deserve…starting now! http://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com

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