As adoptive parents, we often try our best to do our research to find a program to adopt through that seems ethical. Sometimes we find out later that the situation our adopted children were in was far more complicated than we initially thought. Marjie Alonso adopted two young boys from Paraguay. The boys were not related, but were four months apart in age. As the boys grew, Marjie found herself seeing behaviors she didn't understand from her adopted boys. Therapists didn't give her the advice that she needed. When she finally took her boys back to Paraguay at their request the interactions she had with their first families caused her to rethink her views on international adoption and how to define a good life. Learn more about her story and her thoughts in this interview.THIS EPISODE CONTAINS MENTIONS OF SUICIDE