Anchored At Home

Why do trauma, addiction, people-pleasing, codependency, anxiety, and unhealthy relationship patterns keep resurfacing, even after we think we’ve healed?

In this powerful episode of the Anchored at Home Podcast, Josh and Liz sit down with former licensed professional counselor and spiritual mentor Laurie Lokey to talk about trauma healing, addiction recovery, emotional regulation, marriage, vulnerability, Christian counseling, and finding freedom from the patterns that keep us stuck.

Lori explains how many of the behaviors we struggle with are actually “strategies of protection” we developed to avoid pain, rejection, abandonment, shame, or fear. Addiction, codependency, people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, emotional withdrawal, and the need for control may look different on the surface, but underneath them can be a heart trying desperately to stay safe.

The conversation explores experiential therapy and somatic healing, including why simply understanding your story intellectually may not be enough to create lasting emotional healing. Lori shares how experiential exercises can help people identify emotions, connect what they know intellectually with what they actually feel, and begin processing unresolved trauma.

Josh, Liz, and Laurie also discuss how childhood wounds and past trauma can affect marriage and relationships. Laurie explains what happens when both partners enter protective or survival modes, why one partner cannot do the healing work for two people, and how self-regulation, vulnerability, honesty, compassion, and healthy connection can begin repairing broken trust. They also talk honestly about addiction recovery, grief, rejection, codependency, people-pleasing, separation in marriage, healing after betrayal, and the reality that healing often happens in layers. Lori shares why facing pain instead of continually numbing it can become an important part of experiencing freedom.

Through it all, this conversation points back to Jesus, surrender, identity in Christ, the Holy Spirit, and learning to trust the goodness of God even in the hardest parts of our stories.

If you are struggling with trauma, addiction, shame, marriage problems, codependency, people-pleasing, emotional regulation, broken trust, anxiety, or feeling spiritually stuck, this episode is a reminder that you do not have to walk through healing alone.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home for honest conversations about marriage, faith, family, relationships, healing, parenting, and creating generational impact—one home at a time.


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Stay Connected with our hosts:
Liz Instagram:  http://instagram.com/liznolz/
Josh Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/joshnolz/

Stay Connected with Anchored at Home
If this conversation encouraged you, challenged you, or gave you something to carry into your own home, we’d love to stay connected.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss a conversation. If the show has resonated with you, leaving a rating or review helps more people find these conversations and become part of this community.

Learn more about Josh and Liz, explore coaching, and find resources from Home Team: https://myhometeam.org/

Follow Home Team on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myhometeam_/

And if something from today’s episode made you think of someone, share it with them. Sometimes one honest conversation is all it takes to remind someone they’re not alone.

There’s always room for you here.

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Podcast produced by Hi Hello Labs: https://www.hihellolabs.com/ 

"We can spend our entire marriage trying to change each other, or we can invite God into the parts of ourselves that need healing. Because the healthiest thing we can bring into our marriage isn't perfection, it's a willingness to grow."

Can vulnerability actually make your marriage stronger? 

And what happens when marriage exposes wounds, habits, and patterns you didn’t even know you had?

In this episode of Anchored at Home, Josh and Liz have an honest conversation about marriage, identity, emotional healing, Christian relationships, vulnerability, therapy, and building deeper intimacy with your spouse.

They explore an important truth about healthy marriage: before you can build the strongest version of your marriage, you have to be willing to look honestly at yourself.  Josh shares his deeply personal experience attending an intensive retreat and confronting painful experiences from his past. What began as something he was terrified to do became a lesson in the incredible power of vulnerability, emotional healing, authentic community, and allowing yourself to truly be known.

Josh and Liz also discuss how marriage can expose unresolved wounds, why your spouse cannot heal everything that happened before your relationship, the importance of creating a shared vision and core values for your marriage, and how faith in Jesus has shaped the way they approach healing, parenting, communication, and their relationship. 

They also share a practical communication exercise they use with couples to help spouses stop simply hearing each other’s words and begin hearing the heart behind them.

If you’re navigating marriage struggles, Christian marriage, emotional intimacy, communication issues, therapy, relationship healing, past trauma, parenting, personal growth, or simply want a stronger and healthier relationship with your spouse, this conversation is for you.

The challenge this week: find one safe person and tell them something real.

You don’t have to share everything. You don’t need a massive breakthrough. Just open the door.  Because vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s one of the ways we build the deep relationships, strong marriages, healthy families, and supportive communities we were created for.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home for honest conversations about marriage, faith, family, relationships, healing, parenting, and creating generational impact—one home at a time.


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Stay Connected with our hosts:
Liz Instagram:  http://instagram.com/liznolz/
Josh Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/joshnolz/


Stay Connected with Anchored at Home
If this conversation encouraged you, challenged you, or gave you something to carry into your own home, we’d love to stay connected.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss a conversation. If the show has resonated with you, leaving a rating or review helps more people find these conversations and become part of this community.

Learn more about Josh and Liz, explore coaching, and find resources from Home Team: https://myhometeam.org/

Follow Home Team on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myhometeam_/

And if something from today’s episode made you think of someone, share it with them. Sometimes one honest conversation is all it takes to remind someone they’re not alone.

There’s always room for you here.

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Podcast produced by Hi Hello Labs: https://www.hihellolabs.com/ 

In this episode of Anchored at Home, Josh and Liz share the deeply personal story behind the podcast name and explore what it means to build a strong marriage, healthy family, grounded identity, and enduring faith that can withstand life's storms.

After watching an anchor struggle to take hold during a trip, Josh and Liz realized how closely that image reflected their own lives. You can appear to be in the right place while quietly drifting beneath the surface. And that drift can happen in your faith, marriage, parenting, emotional health, relationships, and identity. 

Josh and Liz share their own experiences with perfectionism, people pleasing, performance-driven identity, codependency, unresolved trauma, addiction and numbing behaviors, church hurt, emotional disconnection, and baggage brought into marriage. They also discuss how their relationships with Jesus transformed the way they understood identity, healing, vulnerability, marriage, parenting, and generational impact.

This honest Christian marriage conversation explores why couples shouldn't wait for a crisis to strengthen their relationship. The healthiest foundations are built before the storm comes through trust, communication, vulnerability, emotional safety, faith, accountability, and a willingness to address your own wounds. 

Josh and Liz also challenge listeners to consider an important question: What am I carrying that I haven't looked at yet? Because the things we refuse to name can quietly shape our marriages, parenting, relationships, and homes. 

If you're looking for conversations about Christian marriage, biblical relationships, faith and family, emotional healing, overcoming past trauma, marriage communication, Christian parenting, breaking generational cycles, finding your identity in Christ, or building a stronger home, this episode is for you.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home for real, vulnerable conversations about faith, marriage, parenting, healing, relationships, and creating generational impact one home at a time.


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Stay Connected with Anchored at Home

If this conversation encouraged you, challenged you, or gave you something to carry into your own home, we’d love to stay connected.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss a conversation. If the show has resonated with you, leaving a rating or review helps more people find these conversations and become part of this community.

Learn more about Josh and Liz, explore coaching, and find resources from Home Team: https://myhometeam.org/

Follow Home Team on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myhometeam_/

And if something from today’s episode made you think of someone, share it with them. Sometimes one honest conversation is all it takes to remind someone they’re not alone.

There’s always room for you here.

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Podcast produced by Hi Hello Labs: https://www.hihellolabs.com/ 

What if the conversations we’re most afraid to have are the very ones that remind us we’re not alone?

In the debut episode of Anchored at Home, Josh and Liz Nolz pull up a chair and invite you into the heart behind this podcast—and into a much bigger conversation about marriage, family, faith, vulnerability, and the people we need along the way.

They share how they met, the moves and unexpected turns that shaped their family, the “I got you” moments that strengthened their faith, and why saying yes to this podcast required stepping far outside their comfort zones.

But more than anything, they share why Anchored at Home exists.

After years of experiencing the power of honest conversations around kitchen tables, fire pits, in therapy, in community, and within their own marriage, Liz and Josh have learned something simple but life-changing: we were never meant to do this alone.

Behind every highlight reel is a real story. Marriage is hard. Parenting is hard. Growth is hard. And sometimes hearing someone else say, “Me too,” is exactly what we need to finally exhale.

This is a space for those conversations—the vulnerable, messy, funny, faith-filled, honest ones that help us feel seen, find connection, and become more anchored in who we are and how we show up at home.

Pull up a chair. There’s room for you here.

In this episode:
• Why Liz and Josh finally said yes to starting a podcast
• Their story, family, and the moves that shaped them
• Faith, obedience, and the “I got you” moments along the way
• Why vulnerability creates deeper connection
• The reality behind the highlight reels we see online
• Why healthy marriages, families, and individuals need a village
• What you can expect from future episodes of Anchored at Home


Subscribe to Anchored at Home for honest conversations about marriage, faith, family, relationships, healing, parenting, and creating generational impact—one home at a time.


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Stay Connected with our hosts:
Liz Instagram:  http://instagram.com/liznolz/
Josh Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/joshnolz/


Stay Connected with Anchored at Home
If this conversation encouraged you, challenged you, or gave you something to carry into your own home, we’d love to stay connected.

Subscribe to Anchored at Home wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss a conversation. If the show has resonated with you, leaving a rating or review helps more people find these conversations and become part of this community.

Learn more about Josh and Liz, explore coaching, and find resources from Home Team: https://myhometeam.org/

Follow Home Team on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myhometeam_/

And if something from today’s episode made you think of someone, share it with them. Sometimes one honest conversation is all it takes to remind someone they’re not alone.

There’s always room for you here.

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Podcast produced by Hi Hello Labs: https://www.hihellolabs.com/