• http://Alexander Bell.org • It is vital to see how anger, when it is held on to, obscures our peace, our joy and our love. If we withhold our love from others, it can feel good because we feel we are giving them what they deserve and teaching them a lesson. This gives us a satisfying sense of justice and righteousness. But in truth this is a very unintelligent and self-defeating thing to do. Do we really think we can punish someone and it not affect us? It is our pain that wishes to punish others through anger and if we continue to do this, we simply keep our pain alive; we feed it. The way to heal the inner pain which lies beneath the anger is to forgive. There is no alternative. We have to want to let go of the anger, so that forgiveness can occur.