I recorded this one on a busy Friday in the middle of a family week — a college graduation, not enough hours, too many thoughts to let go.

This week I put out a video on shame and the hips. The psoas muscle. The root and sacral chakras. And it went somewhere I didn’t expect — 54,000 views in 24 hours. Which told me something important: this is a topic people are starving to talk about and have never been given language for.

I started this episode with a phrase I heard recently that stopped me cold.

Anger is shame’s bodyguard.

From there I went somewhere I wasn’t planning to go: the trolls.

I’ve noticed something fascinating about the difference between the comment sections on my throat release videos versus the shame video. The throat videos brought out the perverts. Expected. Handled. No big deal.

The shame video brought out something else entirely: rage. Profanity. The specific flavor of anger that belongs to someone whose shame just got poked — and who doesn’t know what to do with it except aim it outward.

It was a live psychology study. And it told me exactly what I needed to know about who needs this work most — and why they’re the least likely to do it.

In this episode:

* What the psoas muscle has to do with shame — and why 54,000 people recognized it in their own bodies

* The difference between the trolls who showed up on the throat videos versus the shame video — and what that difference reveals

* Why talking about trauma and healing attracts both the courageous and the enraged

* How shadow work changed the way I relate to ugly comments — and what would have happened to me three years ago if I’d seen them

* Why pity, not attention, is the right response to the people who try to shame you for healing

* And the lesson I keep learning: don’t sacrifice the work that’s helping hundreds of people to relieve the discomfort of the handful who are threatened by it

Links mentioned:

* Watch the shame and hips video: https://youtube.com/@thehealthyvoice

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