When anger gets so intense that it is already being expressed, you can’t manage that. The ship has already sailed. It already has its momentum. Take that opportunity as a dharma gate. Use the heat of the situation. Approaching it as actually materializing it and making it into something wrong and something that needs to be fixed or managed is a misunderstanding. In order to relate to anger fundamentally, directly and radically it seems to be necessary to go down into that with our awareness.

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