Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by R. Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons offers a practical, compassionate framework for helping children (and their parents) break the cycle of anxiety and foster independence, courage, and resilience.

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You’ll learn how anxiety functions as both a protective mechanism and a learned behavior, and how to equip your child—and yourself—with tools to manage it effectively. The book introduces nine essential strategies, or “puzzle pieces,” for breaking the worry cycle:

Expect Worry: Teach children that worry is a normal part of life. Instead of reacting with surprise or fear, expect it in new or challenging situations and prepare accordingly.

Talk to Your Worry: Externalize anxiety by helping kids view it as something separate. This shift gives them power to engage with it critically, using phrases like “Not now, worry—I’ve got this.”

Be Willing to Feel Uncomfortable: Growth requires discomfort. Children must learn that anxiety doesn’t mean something is wrong—it just means they’re stretching themselves.

Breathe!: Calming Breath and Calming Counts are simple techniques to calm the nervous system, helping children center themselves when anxiety spikes.

Know What You Want: Focus on desired outcomes rather than what you’re afraid of. Turning “have-to” into “want-to” empowers action in the face of fear.

Bridge Back to Past Successes: Anxiety creates amnesia. Help your child remember past accomplishments and apply those lessons to new challenges.

Take Action on Your Plan: Create step-by-step plans with your child to approach feared situations. Progress happens through movement—even small steps matter.

Understand the Brain: Anxiety stems from an overactive amygdala. Teaching kids how their brain works reduces mystery and empowers them to reframe anxious thoughts.

Promote Independence: Avoid overprotection. Instead, encourage decision-making, respectful disagreement, and gradual problem-solving to build confidence and autonomy.

Throughout the book, Wilson and Lyons emphasize the power of modeling courage, using rewards wisely, and changing family dynamics to support lasting transformation. They challenge parents to act as coaches, not fixers—guides who walk alongside their children through uncertainty rather than shielding them from it.

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