If a quick “I’m sorry” actually fixed relationships, I’d be out of a job. My clients tell me this all the time: He apologized, but I still feel awful. Why can’t I just accept it and move on?

Here’s the truth: your body isn’t broken for needing more. An apology without safety is like slapping a bandaid on a cut that hasn’t been cleaned—it looks like repair, but underneath, things are still festering.

In this episode, I break down:

1. Why rushed apologies feel like pressure instead of healing
2. The role of your nervous system in deciding if an apology “lands”
3. How everyday ruptures—missed commitments, sharp words, moments of invisibility—become triggers when apologies don’t connect
4. The difference between a performance apology and an embodied one
5. A simple two-question check-in to know if you’re ready to accept (or offer) repair

At the core, this isn’t about perfect words. It’s about creating the safety your body needs so that “I’m sorry” becomes a bridge, not a wall.

If apologies have ever left you feeling tense instead of soothed, this conversation will reframe the entire process. Remember: Safety before sorry.

✨ Tune in now to learn how slowing down and softening creates space for real repair and deeper connection. ✨

Resources

1. Free Course | Break the Cycle: A self-paced introduction to understanding your patterns and nervous system responses.
2. Private Coaching (Limited Availability): High-touch, individualized support for deep relational pattern change.
3. The Attachment Revolution Membership — Waitlist: Ongoing education, tools, and live support for building more secure relationships.
4. Meaningful Journey Counseling (WA residents only): Licensed therapy services for individuals and couples in Washington State.

Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health treatment, therapy, diagnosis, or medical advice. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are experiencing significant distress, please seek support from a licensed mental health professional or medical provider.